Scared Of Doing It All Again

[BabyBunnyMama]

So I have recently came off the pill and whilst not actively TTC, we aren't preventing baby no 2.

We have an almost 2 year old, and whilst I am definitely feeling like I would like to have another, would like the age gap from any point now and feel we are in a good position for another...I'm a bit terrified of doing it all again.

My DD is a great sleeper and generally pretty well behaved, but she was a really hard newborn until she was about 1.

I'm not sure how I'm going to cope with sleepless nights again and worried no 2 would be even harder than number 1 was!

Does everyone feel like this or is this a sign I'm not ready?

This is all completely normal.
When dd1 was about 6 months old, my husband said he'd like to try for another as we wanted 2 children and he wanted to have them all before he reached 40. I felt utterly terrified of starting again and didn't feel ready at all.
When DD was 8 months, we had the surprise that we were expecting again 😂

In all honesty I was totally depressed about it and ended up having therapy as I felt overwhelmed and was worried I wouldn't cope.
Turns out, it's hard having 2 so young but it's nowhere near as hard as I anticipated.
They're 3 and 20 months now and they're best friends and mortal enemies and everything in between and it's exhausting and fantastic.

You do whatever feels right for you and your family.

@houseofvelour aww thank you! I'm glad to hear it all worked out for you! I'm sure it was tough to have 2 so young at first! My DD is almost 2 so she'd probably be at least coming 3 by the time we had a second so hopefully wouldn't be totally dependent on me as much.

Glad to hear it's not just me as I see so many mums just going on to get pregnant and seem to have it all under control. Nobody talks about the fear of it all lol