Motherhood in your forties

[OldieMama]

Okay. No judgement please. I had two boys naturally and first time trying. Gave birth at age 40 and 46. I'm now desperate for a little girl at 48. Please don't judge. My family have a history of having late babies. Latest 51 naturally. Hoping I will be as lucky. Anyone have any experience?

Yes

I know people who have had babies in their v late 40s, but they didn't get to choose boy or girl...

You don't get to choose

What if you got pregnant and it was a boy? Would you still be happy? Or would you consider sex selection via IVF. And if so are you aware of the costs and invasive procedures needed for that to happen (not legal in the UK so you would have to go abroad for it).
If you want another baby then yes try. If you only want a girl then think about what this really means and how far you are prepared to go to achieve that. What does having a daughter mean to you specifically that having sons can't give you?

There's no judgement from me about your age. However, you may get another boy.

All you should be concerned about is having a healthy baby.

Thanks for your posts everyone. I suppose I would like a girl because I had such a wonderful relationship with my own mother, who sadly died twenty years ago. But I adore my boys and have beautiful relationships with them. And of course, the most important thing is having a healthy baby. That is also another concern, the odds are stacked against you as you age. Anyone have a healthy baby in their very late forties?

Yes I had a baby naturally at age 49.

Completely up to you to try for another baby, but it grossly unfair to expect that child to replace your relationship with your mother. It's lovely to hear you had a good relationship with your mum, but you should treasure that and not try to replicate it.

I honestly don't think there's any shame in expressing you would like to try for child of the opposite gender. You clearly love your boys and what's wrong with wanting a girl? You're allowed to want that. Which is why so many people do go on to have more children. It doesn't make you ungrateful and wanting to have a mother daughter relationship like you had with your mum doesn't shouldn't be offensive. I understand we are so lucky to get what we are given and should you be allowed to intervene? I don't think so but I don't think there's anything wrong with hoping for a child of the opposite sex. In my opinion!