I've run out of time to have another child and I'm really sad

[itstoolate22]

Sorry for depressing post but feel I need to just talk to anonymous strangers on the internet! I'm
44. I've been trying for dc2 for years dc1 is 8 and I am truly truly blessed to have her.

I've had 3 losses since then and I am now sure I've run out of time . Clearly my old eggs are no good. Dh won't consider ivf so that's that! Just got af today after feeling like we might have a very slim chance this month and feel a bit sad. I'll be ok .. life is planned for us I'm sure and maybe another child is not in our plan but feel a bit sad about it..

Hi @itstoolate22 I didn’t want to read and run. I’m really sorry for what you’re going through and how you’re feeling. I guess there’s still a chance you can get pregnant but if this turns out to be the end of your run then give yourself a chance to grieve ‘what could of been’ if you know what I mean. It’s a big loss and you need a chance to deal with that and move on. Having to accept something that wasn’t your plan isn’t easy xxx 💖

I'm in a similar boat, 44 with a 6 year old, trying for 5 years but never a single positive tests. Sorry for your losses, going through miscarriages as well must be so much worse I am getting to the point where the age gap is huge and the thought of going back to the newborn days is a bit terrifying, but I can't seem to help wanting and being sad each time AF comes. No advice to offer really, just solidarity.

I'm so sorry. I do understand completely. I'm 48. Had my only child when I was 17. I've had 3 losses since then and have really been struggling with the realisation that that's it... Shops closed. I went off contraception close to 2 years ago and my brain and heart fight with each other constantly and share the joy/despair when my period arrives on time as scheduled every month. I just wish menopause would happen so that my body would stop mocking me.

The sad irony is that it's only been since I sailed in to my 40's that I think I have the emotional maturity to raise a child. My DS has grown to be a wonderful human but I now know that everyone was right and 17 is way to young to be a parent.

Now I concentrate on helping my plant babies grow since the chance of grand babies gets smaller every year.

Sorry to just unload on you. I've not shared that with anyone before. I wish I could give you advice but can only give you these 💐 instead.

Thanks for the replies. It helps to know I'm not the only one who feels this way!