Trying for a baby after having d&c

[EJKIN]

Hey... I just wondered if I could get some experiences from like minded people who have had to have a d&c and when you started ttc afterwards? I had mixed advice from hospital after my recent d&c (unfortunately my second) baby was 7+6. Did you wait 3 months or 1 as I was told both time lines ? Have you had success? I'm 31 and I lost my first baby at 6 weeks in September 2019. I'm obviously very keen to try again but scared about trying too soon.... Any opinions or experiences would be great to hear. Xx

Hi lovely, so sorry to hear about your losses 😔 I had a D&C about 8 months ago and unfortunately still trying for baby #3. We waited about a month before ttc after the surgery. I felt ready, had stopped bleeding etc and just wanted to be close to my partner again by that point.. 💖 x

Thanks farfaraway its been a very long month for me as I had a mega bleed at the beginning then it calmed then came back then had to go gp then to hospital for scan and then had confirmation of what I suspected. I am finding it hard as my partner works away... And one of his friends who hasn't been with his partner very long just announced they are pregnant so I'm feeling green... We didn't announce we were waiting for 3 months. I hope you have success soon and thanks again for getting back to me. Keep me posted on how you're doing x

Sorry for your loss .

I was told to wait 1 month for dating reasons. I didn't and caused myself a world of stress. I should have never ttc the month after! I fell pregnant 8 months later and now have a wonderful 6mo dd in bed with me.

I'm sorry for your loss I'm not sure of the advice now but after I had my d&c 10 years ago I was told by the hospital to wait 1 cycle then try again

@Chanel05 sorry to hear about your stress.. May I ask what happened? Was it the pressure to try again? I feel so guilty as my partner was so so excited and I let him down.. Congrats on your lovely dd!

@Tittyfilarious thanks for your kind response. Love your name its brilliant! Did you have success in the end?

Sorry to hear this.

I waited 1 cycle
Had a CP
Waited one cycle
DC1

@EJKIN Yes I did in the end had 1 more loss after the d&c then had my dd

@JanewaysBun congratulations on DC1! It may sound silly but I think I could cope with a CP I'm just really scared of having to have another d&c but every one's success stories are definitely making me feel a lot better. Thanks everyone!

Sorry for your loss. I was told to wait for my period and then I'd be good to go. I was pregnant again within six weeks and that one stuck thankfully. I hadn't thought about dating at all actually, it makes sense to wait for your period. Whatever you decide to do, I'm wishing you good luck.

@EJKIN you absolutely didn't let him down. I'm sure he doesn't think that and it most certainly isn't your fault. It's one of life's cruel moments.

I was so so frightened of not being pregnant again by the due date of my angel baby and I put so much pressure on myself to be pregnant. I knew I'd only feel better when pregnant again. Thing is, I didn't fall pregnant before the due date. But once that was over I set my feelings free and fell pregnant again on the very next cycle. I truly believe that it wasn't going to happen until I had that release.

I'm not glad it happened, I wish it never happened. But I'd go through it all again to have my dd every time. I look at her and feel so lucky every single day.

I didn’t wait and fell pregnant straight away, but the stress, & anxiety was awful. Every little twinge made me feel like it has gone wrong again, & whilst I tracked ovulation and knew my dates, EPU obviously couldn’t go off that, so was a nerve wracking time waiting to be told that everything was looking good.

@BabyPotato I am so pleased things worked out for you! I'm hoping that the same will happen for me! The only thing is my partner works away for week and back for a week so it can be difficult with getting timings right but if its meant to be its meant to be! Fingers crossed.... I wonder why I had such mixed advice at the hospital when everyone seems to have waited a month?!

Hi,
I also had a d & c on jan 4th.
I was also told to wait until my first period. Which came a month later. Then had a cycle, then
Had another positive result this Thursday so am now 3 1/2 weeks so it took until second cycle anyway even though we did just go with we would see what happened straight away after recovery of d & c. However in hindsight I am glad I mentally had some time in between. To me it felt like they had taken my child out and left me with a void.. that took some time to get my head around.
I think for those that have had an early miscarriage.. I see on here so many woman worried about a 2 week wait.... try a 8 or 12 week wait after miscarriage!! It was my first pregnancy before and it’s definitely taken away some joy of being pregnant. Roll on first scan!
On a side note I did have much stronger body responses than previous miscarriage like ovulation pain etc. I also at the beginning of this cycle started taking vitamins that Luisa Zissman spoke about on a blog and obviously fell pregnant , may be worth looking into when the time is right.

Hi I'm sorry you've had to go through this it's not a very nice experience. I had a d&c in July last year then I had one cycle and got my BFP in September and I'm currently 31 weeks pregnant. I was advised to make sure I had a negative test and have 1 cycle before trying again.

I hope it all works out for you 🤞🏼 for your bfp soon

@Pixieandpip glad to hear your news... What vitamins did you take? Thanks for your response x

@May2021Mummy thanks for your reply its so good to keep hearing all these positive messages! My mother suffered several miscarriages but most were CP... Both of mine have been 6+. I am hoping I don't have to wait too long for my bfp but I do feel so encouraged by all these happy stories x

@Pixieandpip please keep me posted on how you get on and congratulations on your news! I definitely understand what you mean about the happiness coming out of pregnancy a bit... One of my partners friends is now complaining about pregnancy symptoms..... Little does she know what I'd give to still be experiencing them but I believe things happen for a reason and hope next time baby will be a picture of health x

@EJKIN I found out at 9 weeks about my MMC it's so tough and I know it's probably cliche but after it happened I threw out my ovulation sticks and stopped using my tracking app. I really just wanted to enjoy time with my partner again having sex on queue at a certain time can just make it so mechanical. I was really just trying to relax about it all a bit. I know this is easier said then done. I really wish you the best of luck for me I didn't want to take a break I just really wanted to take the pressure of a bit, to be honest I was the only one putting pressure on my self my other half is so relaxed which helped me massively

www.luisazissman.co.uk/?p=647

Link for the vitamins... like I say could be sheer coincidence but made me feel healthier and calmed everything down abit.
Good luck.
Yes keep us posted!

@Pixieandpip thanks so much! I have had a terrible month! First bleed beginning of March and d&c last Monday and still bleeding... Drinking Guinness to avoid anaemia. I will definitely give the vitamins a try

@Pixieandpip how are you getting on? X

Hi,
Still hanging on here. Now 10 weeks officially but had a private scan last week that put me slightly ahead.
But got to see a baby shaped blob with a heartbeat for the first time! All seems to be going well and am still feeling quite rough which is reassuring.
I’ve still been very cautious /negative but fingers crossed the little blob can keep going a few weeks until my 12 week scan.
How have you got on? Better I hope?x

@Pixieandpip oh excellent news I have everything crossed for you! I'm feeling ok I had my first period 5 days late so I'm now onto my next cycle just passed ovulation but my partner is working away so very unlikely we have conceived this month. X

@Pixieandpip how are you doing? I have just found out I'm pregnant! I'm keeping an open mind but I feel more positive about this.. Only early days but yay.

Thanks to everyone previously who commented I appreciate it!