I am feeling rubbish! 8 months :(

[AKcheer]

Hi Everyone,
I'm feeling mega down. This was month 8 in trying and AF has come this morning. Started spotting yesterday so I just knew. I really thought this month was going to be a lucky month but it just wasn't. I'm feeling so down. I just don't know why it's not working. I've never even got a hint of a line so I just dread to think something is wrong.
Husbands semen analysis was all ok. When i went for my day 3 and day 21 bloods, GP said all was ok. I don't know whether to book private tests in or try anything else. Any advice? Anything to try? Just feel like this is never going to happen and i feel really guilty.

Im 31, hubby is 34 - Can anyone give me any hope?
I take the vitamins, i'm quite healthy, I have pineapple to help implantation...i've tried it all :(

Are you doing opks?

I know exactly how you feel! I am just in AF for cycle 11, it feels like it is never going to happen. I am up and hopeful some days but the lows are getting lower. It is hard.
I have had 3 chemicals and one miscarriage in the last year so we can get so far. But whilst it is positive to get that far it means I now know too much. I have lost the innocence so a bfp is just the terrifying beginning and even if I manage to get pregnant again I will be too anxious about mc. The whole thing is an anxiety fest.
Friends say to relax and try less but I am 38 so I feel like I need to do everything I can because time is running out. I had tests, all fine etc. SA showed a slight issue with DP sperm but nothing huge. I have run out of new things to try, except progesterone. We are starting with an IVF clinic next month with that in mind so we’ll see...

This is tough, I wish it was more widely known how hard ttc is, or can be. I cannot deal with the ‘first monthers’ right now

Hi @AKcheer I'm sorry that you're feeling so low.

It took me 10 months to get pregnant, not a hint of a line before that and I was doing everything I could. Unfortunately that's recently ended in a miscarriage so I'm back on the TTC journey but I understand how you must be feeling. I was worried that nothing was happening and that there was something wrong with us, but you have to remember there's only a 25-30% chance of it happening even if you do everything right.

Please don't feel guilty, unfortunately it's just something that's out of our control. All we can do is support each other on the journey. I'm excited and nervous and terrified to start all over again. I'm wondering if it will take me as long as it did before, but we've got to try to stay positive.

@AKcheer Hey you, I hope you're doing ok 💕

I haven't been on the chat the last few weeks because I've felt so down lately about it all too, and didn't want to put everyone on a downer since it's such a nice, positive thread! But just so you know I am 100% with you, I'm also now on cycle 9 and the same as you - tests seem fine but nothing happening yet. Sorry your AF arrived, it's so disappointing :( I'm always here if you need to chat, PM me or anything at all whenever you need to vent!

I've got everything crossed it happens for us both! 🤞💕

Hi everyone, thanks for respondsing back.

@lightofthetrees yup doing opks get a surger around the same time every month

@Sparrowfeeder Ahh i'm sorry to hear you have had some CP and MC :( I know how you feel i'm on AF too so just feeling down. It's really hard this journey and I try and stay positive too but you sometimes just can't help yourself can you? I can imagine - the anxiety must be through the roof. I hope the IVF clinic helps. Keep us updated how you get on it will be good to know. Oooh i can't stand the first monthers either.... :|

@Madeoftea Hey and thanks for the nice message. I'm so sorry it ended in MC for you. I know the stats are there...the % are there but i just can't help the thoughts in my head. I really try to stay positive. It's just taking longer than I ever imagined!!

@KerryW87 Hey you how are you? I ws thinking of you this morning. I know i felt so down too....it is a positive thread and if you look on there a few people are getting bfps....we just ave to wait our turn :( Thank you so much :(

@AKcheer My wee sister had her wee girl on Saturday, over the moon for her completely 💕 but it's just becoming overwhelming how many baby-related things I've had to be involved in the past 9 months after losing wee J. Definitely gets in top of you. I was so sad to read how you've been feeling 💕 You've always come across such a positive person and I totally admire that and agree with it! But you're also so allowed to have down days, trying for a baby is such an emotional and all-consuming experience so it's only to be expected to get upset! I chat to one of the girls on here on whatsapp, really helps sometimes so feel free to PM me any time. It'll happen for us both I'm sure 🤞 xx

Aww really @KerryW87! Congratulations to your sister ❤️ It’s so hard isn’t it. Feels like we’re surrounded by baby stuff at the moment!
Thank you so much for your words!!! They really mean a lot. I’ve took you up on your offer and messaged you. Hope you don’t mind x

@AKcheer

Hi Everyone, I'm feeling mega down. This was month 8 in trying and AF has come this morning. Started spotting yesterday so I just knew. I really thought this month was going to be a lucky month but it just wasn't. I'm feeling so down. I just don't know why it's not working. I've never even got a hint of a line so I just dread to think something is wrong. Husbands semen analysis was all ok. When i went for my day 3 and day 21 bloods, GP said all was ok. I don't know whether to book private tests in or try anything else. Any advice? Anything to try? Just feel like this is never going to happen and i feel really guilty.

Im 31, hubby is 34 - Can anyone give me any hope?
I take the vitamins, i'm quite healthy, I have pineapple to help implantation...i've tried it all :(

Hello

I hope you don't mind me asking but I'm in month 8 trying for my second and I thought I would have to wait until a year before seeing my GP, but it looks like maybe not from your experience?

I'd be keen to get on the waiting list for checks earlier if possible!