Struggling to conceive- want to cry..

[MissRF12]

Hey girls... I don't even know what I want from this post. I feel lonely. And want to cry.

My partner and I have trying for a baby for the last 3 years. Fell pregnant last July ended up having a miscarriage.
After that my periods took forever to get back to normal. Then it done and I'm not falling pregnant.

I track everything. I've been to docs and had tests to be told everything if fine and normal.

I'm so fed up and jus want to cry. I'm 12dpo spending my money on strip tests getting obsessed with taking them. Forcing myself to want to see a line but nothin.

I'm 31 this year, all our friends have families. I want it to be our turn but it's just not happening.

Really getting me down.
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

Ugh I can totally sympathise. It took me well over 15 to years to conceive and then I had multiple miscarriages. Took a 3 month break after my last one but now no matter if we dtd during or slightly before ovulation I just can't seem to fall Pregnant. My body certainly likes to take the piss each month though by giving me every pregnancy symptom possible and for some reason I'll occasionally get maybe one very faint positive on a test but negative on the others. I was mega convinced the other day, when a clear positive came through when I held my test up to the light but the one I did the following day was negative again

@HopingForOurRainbowBaby awc I'm sorry to hear that 😩
I'm the exact same done a test and could have swore I seen a line.

I don't know what tests are reliable and what isn't. Read mixed reviews on everything.

I'm sorry, that must be so hard and shit. Are you now eligible for IVF under unexplained infertility (if you are in the UK)?

"The National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (NICE) fertility guidelines make recommendations about who should have access to IVF treatment on the NHS in England and Wales.

These guidelines recommended that IVF should be offered to women under the age of 43 who have been trying to get pregnant through regular unprotected sex for 2 years"

Sorry to hear this op. I see you've had tests and all is well, has your partner had tests?

I really sympathise and sorry that you're feeling so low about it as well. Its so hard not to let it take over your life.

I think at the minute it's especially hard as we're all still in lockdown and there's not much we can do for stress relief or to keep our minds off it. But when you can maybe try and plan things to look forward to that are either nothing to do with ttc, to take your mind of it, or plan some fun little breaks to take with your partner to coincide with your ovulation times.

Definitely push at the doctor for further tests and help though. Its horrible as its all out of our control. Xx

Sometimes the best advice is to stop trying. Throw everything out and delete the apps. Give yourself 3-4 months of just having sex when you want and enjoying it. No more stressing.

It may sound weird but it works, I had a meltdown in December as it was not happening for me for 2 years and I was so stressed and it had consumed me. So we said let's have a break and not worry.

Found out I was pregnant end of January and currently 11 weeks and hoping all is well.

Also, the amount of people that have said the same as me is staggering, some times the stress of it all does strange things to your body.

Good luck I have been where you are xx

I agree with Missreginafalange,

Well after 1 faint positive test followed by 2 negatives the following morning today I've started spotting brown blood. Only there when I wipe though. I've also got waves of cramps right in the middle lower part of my uterus and pains shooting down there. This is exactly how my last miscarriage started

Chemical Pregnancy confirmed this morning