3 Failed IVF and no idea what to do next

[KayReeves]

Hi all I'm sure this has been covered before but just wondered if anyone had recently got to 3 IVFs or more, failed and then found themselves in a hole about what to do next. I'm 39, have a boy through IUI, have low ovarian reserve, and have had no result from 5 fresh embryo transfers - one grade D then two doubles which were grade C.

The odds are stacked against me, but I just don't feel I can give up either. Having never conceived naturally I just don't think that's going to work. Its a pretty lonely place and I've not even told my mum this time about it. Would be good to talk to anyone who can understand

Hi! Not been through it myself but just wondering if there would be any point to trying with a different clinic and/or a different approach? Perhaps mild ivf that tends to produce fewer but better quality eggs? Any idea if it's the eggs or the sperm that aren't good quality btw - if so would donor sperm/egg be an option?

Sorry for just chucking a bunch of questions at you, I just don't want you to feel like you've reached the end of the road, you'll be far from the first person this has happened to.

It wouldn't be a bad idea to post something similar on reddit by the way as they have far more users that have an amazing depth of knowledge. www.reddit.com/r/stilltrying and www.reddit.com/r/tryingforababy could be great places to start.

Thanks @Juno231 the clinic hasn't said there's any issue with sperm, or my eggs specifically but as the grading is quite low, I'd guess its my age and ovarian reserve although no one has done any detailed tests on it. I don't know what other tests they can do for us without us spending thousands more, but perhaps a fresh approach from a new clinic would help.

At this moment in time I think I'd like to use own eggs and sperm, I know donors work well for other people but I'm not sure if its for me. Thanks for the tip on Reddit, never actually been on there before!