TTC CHAT

[Jessa96]

Hi
I'm wondering if anyone just has any advice as I'm starting to drive myself insane.
I have been TTC since august last year, only monitoring properly since November time.
I am using the clear blue advanced ovulation monitor and I am now 1DPO.

It's starting to really get me down that I am just not pregnant yet, it's all I can think about and nothing can take my mind away from this. The thought of never becoming a mam just fills me with complete and utter fear. I am just wondering if anyone has any advice or just wants to chat about it. I think TTC can be very lonely at times and with it being Mother's Day today, if I am honest all I have done is cry all day. I feel so deflated 😭

Thanks in advance.

Hello,

I have no advice unfortunately but I am in the same position as you. I have been ttc since August. I have found today difficult and feel very alone. All my friends/family have fallen pregnant their first couple of months of trying so don't understand how I feel.

Fingers crossed it happens for us both soon! xx

Hi Sarah
Thank you for your response.
It’s been a hard day today, didn’t think it would hit me but woke up this morning and felt horrific ever since. Finding it hard as I can’t speak to family about it as I’m trying to keep it a surprise in case it happens soon. I didn’t think it would ever be something I would struggle with. It’s starting to get hard to not be upset about it.

Sending lots of love and hugs and hope it happens for you real soon xx

Hi OP, we also started ttc august 2020. I've had 4 chemicals since then but no luck with a successful pregnancy yet. I didn't think I'd mind today but honestly, I've been so emotional and sad today, it's been so difficult, I didn't expect to feel like this at all. I'm really struggling to stay positive. It's the main thing on my mind too. I can't focus on work. I have a few friends who know we're trying but they've never been through this so I don't feel like they fully understand. It does feel so so lonely and difficult. I can't help but wonder if it'll ever happen. I know others try for longer than this but I am struggling to keep going. It's nice to know I'm not the only one feeling like this.

I’m so glad I’m not the only one.
I need to just go to sleep and tomorrow is a new day.
It’s exhausting, it’s taking over my whole life. I find it really hard being told to take a ‘break’ from it as well and it will happen naturally because I just don’t feel like that would happen. I’m 24, never had a child before but all of my friends are starting to have them and just finding it impossible at the moment. Really worried there is something wrong with me. It’s been a funny old day. Hoping this month will be my month, but I don’t have much hope xx

I feel the same. I'm 28 and we are still young and have plenty of time but hearing that doesn't help feel any better. It doesn't replace the baby we are wishing to have. You always hear of people getting pregnant when they stop trying but I already have such little control over this situation that a month where we "stop actively trying" makes me nervous, it's a month we could miss out on, we're going into our 8th month now, it's already taking much longer than I expected.

I'm getting whatever basic tests I can get done with my GP, pelvic ultrasound etc. Honestly, mentally I'm gearing up to having to go down the private route to get tested and to get help carrying a pregnancy (private because NHS may take longer but if we do decide to go down this way then we'll reassess when we're at this point) . I never thought I would have any issues. This is so difficult to accept, to process and to face. I don't know how others do it.

Totally agree with everything your saying.
Have you tried the clear blue advanced fertility monitor? I feel that’s been my favourite so far which is my first month using.

I’m also getting slight checks, getting a ultrasound to check for PCOS. I find it hard to believe how little this is spoke about, never in my wildest dreams did I think I wouldn’t be able to get pregnant and I did not know how much women struggle with this. It’s draining the life out of me. I hope I feel better tomorrow. Feel really silly because I’m usually a very brave person, never a crier (not even at sad films!!) and never like showing my emotions so trying to put on a brave face but this is horrific. Worst thing ever xx

Hi everyone,
I feel the same. I remember when I first got my implant out my OH and I had a holiday planned. We wanted to wait a month before trying so I took the pill for 3 weeks 'just in case' that seems laughable now. My 2 very close friends just announced their pregnancies and I had to hold back tears, one of them only took 2 months.

How are your OHs coping? I did a test yesterday when he was here BFN and AF today. He's sweet and hugged me and said it'll happen, we just have to be patient. In the month I used OPKs he found DTD difficult and too 'planned', it was hard. I think this month I'll do OPKs but next month I might just delete all the apps and just see what happens..
Good luck to you all x

@Jessa96 @choccrumpet were your GPs happy to do some tests? I'm considering going to doctors to ask for some tests to be done but worried that they will say no as we haven't been trying for a year yet.

My OH is a little worried but just says it will happen, we have to be patient. I tried a couple of months without opks and tracking but felt very out of control so started them again!

Xx

hey lovelies hope you don't mind if i join!! i'm 12dpo today and have a vvvvvfl on cb early but can digi came back neg? can u let me know if u can see the line here? normal and edited :) xx

I can definitely see a line in the first picture! Congratulations, fingers crossed for you! Xx

@Kipkay35 my OH is supportive and tries to be positive and see things from a positive point of view but he also doesn't have things happening in his body. He's not symptom spotting every month, or noticing that weird cramp that doesn't feel normal and wondering could that be it so I think it's easier for him to be more "okay" about everything.. and he's said so as well. He keeps his emotions in check around me and doesn't really show that he's upset because he's trying to be there for me but can also come across to me that he doesn't care. He does and we've had conversations about this.

Dtd feels a bit planned but we're trying to both be responsible for initiating etc and that helps me feel like it's not just all up to me.

Having conversations and an open communication about all of this helps. It's still hard though x

@mrsmumsy00

hey lovelies hope you don't mind if i join!! i'm 12dpo today and have a vvvvvfl on cb early but can digi came back neg? can u let me know if u can see the line here? normal and edited :) xx

I can absolutely see a second line. Keeping everything and anything crossed for you lovely xx

Long term TTC is shit. Absolutely shit. We started December 2019. Fell pregnancy July 2020 but lost our baby boy at 21+4 due to severe spina bifida diagnosis. Chemical pregnancy in January and I'm expecting AF to arrive in the next day or so. Insult to injury as its my boys due date today.

My DS1 is 4 and I am so aware of the age gap getting wider. He really wants to be a big brother and doesn't understand why his little brother couldn't come home.

What supplements and vitamins are you all taking?

@AlexaPlayWhiteNoise

Long term TTC is shit. Absolutely shit. We started December 2019. Fell pregnancy July 2020 but lost our baby boy at 21+4 due to severe spina bifida diagnosis. Chemical pregnancy in January and I'm expecting AF to arrive in the next day or so. Insult to injury as its my boys due date today.

My DS1 is 4 and I am so aware of the age gap getting wider. He really wants to be a big brother and doesn't understand why his little brother couldn't come home.

What supplements and vitamins are you all taking?

I am taking the seven seas trying for a baby capsule, heard some good reviews on them. What about you?

I am taking the seven seas trying for a baby capsule, heard some good reviews on them. What about you?

5mg folic acid (prescribed).
600mg CoQ10.
Vitamin E, C, D.
Vitamin b6 (100mg)and b12 (500mcg)
Omega 3/fish oil.

If you shook me, I'd rattle

Hi all can I join?

I'm 22 and partner is 24 and we have been ttc since June 2020.

I fell pregnant on the pill in June 2019 but lost the baby at 10 weeks.

We were supposed to get married in the Caribbean last November but covid stopped that so now we are getting married in June 2022 which means we will have to stop trying in June this year in order to avoid baby/wedding clash as we don't wanna postpone again. I think I am stressing myself out a bit thinking we only have 3 tries left.

I take pregnacare pre conception vitamins and my partner takes the guy version. I also have just started taking omega 3 and feroglobin liquid too.