Cycle 6, midwife and finding this hard

[midwifeandttc]

Not expecting any answers but just a moan. I am 27 years old and TTC into month 6 now with temps, ovulation tests and after my Mireya coil was removed in August last year. DTD regularly and now into cycle 6 feeling so fed up. I know I’m overanalysing things but my job makes it so hard. I’m a midwife and my logical head knows 6 months isn’t a long time. I see women EVERY DAY who have TTC for a year before conception and couples who have the heartbreak of multiple rounds of IVF etc. I am finding it harder and harder each day at work when I do the first pregnancy appointments for women who come in and say they missed a pill and got
pregnant or were trying for a month or even those unplanned pregnancies. It feels really unfair when I want it so bad! Sorry just a moan. I’d welcome positive happy stories of conception after 6 months TTC. Thank you for reading x

That sounds very hard.

I have a friend who had almost given up on trying to conceive naturally. She went to an America acupuncturist in a final, this is my last attempt and then I will accept it's probably not going to happen frame of mind. The very next month she was pregnant.

It does kind of make you wonder what sort of therapy the acupuncturist practiced

I had never thought about how it must feel for a midwife who is trying to concieve 😩💐
It was 18 months for our first. Just about to start trying for #2 and I'm really hoping it wont be so long this time!
Good luck, really hope you aren't waiting much longer x

Hi @midwifeandttc, I am also a midwife and have been TTC for 6 months. I know exactly where you are coming from. I see so many people who get pregnant so easily. I know everyone has their own issues but some women seem so disappointed that they’re pregnant. I get so many women saying ‘when are you having children?’ HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO KNOW!? I am trying!
I did see a woman and her newborn son this morning, she has been waiting for ten years for him. That did cheer me up :)

I'm not a midwife but I work with vulnerable young children. Many of the children I work with are on child protection / safeguarding plans and subject to neglect or abuse by their parents. I often see mothers who are pregnant with their 5th or 6th child telling me how disappointed they are and how much they wished they weren't pregnant and I'm always thinking in my mind about how much I wish I could have just one. But I smile and get on with my job. It's tough.

Thank you for the replies everyone. I don’t expect answers as you all know, but it’s just hard. I’ve begun slipping in the question “were you trying for long?” Some say a year but most say only a couple of months! I’m only 27 and healthy with a normal BMI and fairly regular cycles. I’m anxious and worried because of everything I see regarding fertility and conception. @acaciabluebell that is tough and I totally get you. @Kipkay35 have you spoken to any colleagues? I haven’t said a word as don’t want to fuel the pressure hence why I thought i’d make a post on here. It’s good to talk. Xx

A couple of my close colleagues know, but a lot of people are putting pressure on me. I got married in 2019 so everyone keeps asking when the babies are arriving. I am also a healthy BMI and only 31, I’m taking all the right vitamins and checking my OPKs. I reallllly hope it happens soon. I hope it works for you soon! @midwifeandttc

This must be really tough as a midwife. Best of luck to you. It only took me 2 months the first time, but 18 months and one miscarriage along the way for the second. I think you just never know really. It's so tough while you're waiting!

It took us 3 years. We were referred for IVF after being told it our chances were incredibly low. I left that appointment sobbing and I was actually pregnant!