WHEN IS RIGHT FOR BABY No 2?

[mad4mybaby]

I have a 16 month old boy who is very active and darn hard work but i adore him. We have been discussing when to have number 2. We only want 2 children and i have always wanted them to be close in age. I ideally wanted 2.5 yrs between them. The only thing that concerns ne about this is how i would cope during the pregnancy (last was a nightmare) and during the first year of new baby. I wont leave a longer gap as i have decided i dont want any after im 30. Yes i know many of you have them alot older and i think thats great but just not for me..

anyone think this will be a nightmare??

no not realy i got pg with ds when dd had just turned 2 so wasnt even 3 when he was born and things were fine. my SIL got PG when her dd was 10 weeks old and she coped through it ok

gosh you know the right time is when it happens

i have a 2.3 yr gap between my two, its fine

but i didn't even start till i was 34.

i realy admire people who cope with age gaps like that...

My dd has just turned two. I think when she was 16 months I would have been scared of another pregnancy.

About a month ago I started wanting another baby. I think my body (hormones) are teling me that I am ready.

I just need to convince my dp ......

I have a 2 year age gap btwn ds and dd, then another 4 years and ds2. Worked fine. In fact, I wish I'd had ds2 sooner as the 6 yr gap btwn ds 1 and 2 can sometimes be a little tricky in that my youngest wants to do everything his big brother does, including staying up later

I know what you mean bout hormones... For about 4 months i have really wanted another baby even tho i had pnd and my d was v ill. Wierd. Just today whilst getting him new clothes i found myself wondering through the newborn section! Im such a freak! He is such hard work and leaves me completely exhausted and i cant believe we want another

I have a 19 month gap bewteen my oldest two, and a three year gap between dd2 and ds. I have to say I loved having them close together, but I was lucky with easy pregnancies and not too bad labours. It wasn't too hard, you just kind of get on with it, and I think subsequent children often fit into the routine you already have in place, so sometimes it is actually easier than it was with the first baby. My dds are very good pals now, and because close in age they could play together properly quite early on.

DD2 was born when DD1 was 3.5. I am pleased with the gap and DD1 hasn't really shown any jealousy or anything. I am not finding it much more difficult than having one child but DD2 is a very good baby!

If you think the time is right then just go for it! Only you know how you will cope.

Having said that I had a terrible pregnancy (hyperemisis)and did find that difficult. I felt like DD1 was suffering with me being ill all the time (she used to fetch me a bowl if she thought I was going to be sick ) and did wonder how I would cope when the baby arrived. I am coping just fine now.

Do you have a good support network in case you have a rough pregnancy?

i think so lomond. Not really close to my mum but have 2 sisters. Keep trying to get my MIL to move closer (crazy i know) my husband travels abit for work..

I know i will only know when the time comes but it is on my mind.

I had to tell DD about the pregnancy really early as she was getting worried aout me being sick all the time. I was also very tired, don't know if I was more so than in the first pregnancy or if it was just the fact that I couldn't get as much rest.

Is your Ds a good sleeper? I got around the tiredness a bit by going to my bed when DD1 went to bed and reading until I fell asleep. At least I got to recharge my batteries for the next day.

Would your sisters be able to help out a bit?

Remember that not everyone who has a bad pregnancy first time around has one the second time around. Your next pregnancy may be different.

I think they'd help but one of them lives 3/4 hour away with 2 kids plus my other sis had 2 kids one same age as my youngest...

You never know really if you can reply on them until the moment comes i guess!