Supporting ‘small changes’ into spring whilst TTC...🌱🌼🌸🍀- Fun Bus 34

[Minster2012]

Last time we actually got reported straight away, for being too fun for MN...was it a week ago?? Maybe 😋😝but they can’t hold us back as the Harry Potter speed bus flies...

We’ve worked out a fleshlight for horses on a MN bus is NOT WELCOME, but how do I know what you have in your suitcase? I’m just the driver, a passenger’s belongings is their own responsibility, and my bags have LOADS of OPKs, loads of pills, fruit, veg, wine, gin & trainers for my workouts.

We aren’t just challenging ourselves to get pregnant & trying to help each other do so, we are also trying to help each other get fitter and sharing small changes we are making in our lives and trying to inspire & support each other with these too...

Have a look at the small changes beside the names and see if you want to try them yourself or add in your own!

We are in this together 🥰♥️🙌🏻💪🏻
Spring is coming, and so are we 😘🦄🍀🌸🌷🌻🌼

And if you see mention of my blog then blame these guys they made me do it...#shamelessplug

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Story so far...

June 24 BFPs
July 11 BFPs
August 18 BFPs
Sep 4 BFPs
Oct 7 BFPs
Nov 7 BFPs
Dec 14 BFPs
7 BFPs for jan

4 BFPs for February so far, still time left ladies

@tornado2inc happy birthday fellow pisces ♓❤️

Warning: long post, if you don't know me (I'm a bit of an OG!) I can totally understand wanting to scroll on if you don't have context to the rambling that's to follow! Ok, right:

Ladies
Ladies
Ladies

Where do I start...?

Sorry to have been awol for, what, a month or so? Relationship started going more downhill after first couple of couples counselling sessions, and then last Saturday we were in a session and the husband/fuckwit told me he wants a divorce.

Turns out he's a deluded, narcissistic, arsehole.

Ready for the mic drop?

I didn't even really know what tiktok was until last week. Turns out fuckface has had a secret account for EIGHT MONTHS and posted a total 370 videos in that time (so let's go with avg 2/day), all of which not only deny ANY existence of a wife, but are also grossly flirtatious and sometimes plain fucking crude.
He has 28,000 followers. 92% women.
He was selling himself as a single dad and had loads of videos of our kids posted, without my knowledge. What the actual fuck? I have demanded he take them down.
Apparently he plans to wait until he has 50k followers, before he records and releases an album of his original songs.......
WHAT IN THE ACTUAL FUCK?!!!! The man is fucking tone deaf. He has a grand total of ZERO musical talent.
I took him to my amazing GP who thinks he has a mental illness.
My personal opinion is that he's just a narcissistic arsehole.
I'm going to let you know his tiktok user name so you can check him out, but do me a favour PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE DO NOT FOLLOW HIM. The extra views will give him an ego boost enough.

https://vm.tiktok.com/ZSJRRBnSL/

Or if the link doesn't work he is 'justmehere__jmh'

I'm utterly heartbroken, but it's been a week now and I'm starting to move into the angry phase. Also important to know there is WAY more to the story than just this tiktok business.

I have managed to get through the last week by basically talking the entire time - on the phone to friends, my sister in Melbourne, my cousin (who is a psychiatrist) in Sydney, my brother in London, my GP, my own psychologist etc etc etc.

My own psych said to me this morning "I wonder, do you realise you have been in an abusive relationship for the last few years?" 😳 umm, no I definitely didn't. I mean, he's never physically hurt me?? But apparently the way he's been treating me equates to straight up emotional and financial abuse! Who woulda thunk it.

So so sad for my life and all my family dreams, and even more so for my gorgeous little boys. But I am a strong woman and I will get through this.

@minster2012 that's great news about the AMH & your ivf 💕 so pleased for you.

@ttcabroad aahhhh congratulations!!! 🎉 Great news and such a strong line!!!

Happy birthday for yesterday @kirky685 your nandos was an excellent plan - its exactly what me & my sis are doing for her bday Friday!

And happy birthday to you too @tornado2inc for Today!!! Hope you have a nice day planned - the sun is shining for you!!!

@2020mission I'm sorry on the bfn, there's still time though right, and hope you got some good wine in the mean time...don't forget at the end of this cycle you are gonna book your 12months tests then

@paintfairy & @Justanothercyster I could also pour a drink over someone. At this point I think I could actually get the hun out for @Skip86's DH. WTAF. I mean WTAF. Skip oh skip. You are so much better than this asshole but you know that babe. I can't even send even love across to you right now. TAKE HIM TO THE FUCKING CLEANERS

And thank you @Sausage1990 ♥️

@minster2012 he ain't my DH mate. We shall refer to him as fuckwit from this moment forth.

Hope you've been ok lovely xx

That's true @Skip86 fuckwit doesn't even come close to be fair

@skip86 omg what an a**hole! I totally feel for you especially with your kids as it's tough not only for you but for them too. I was with my ex for 7 years before someone pointed out that I was in an abusive relationship. It took me a while to realise but it was so true.. emotionally and financially too! You are strong enough to do this! Do what is right for you and your kiddies screw him! If you ever wanna chat you can always dm me :)

@Skip86 OMG! I knew there would be more to it. I'm so sorry. That sounds awful. What's with these immature men? Definitely worth of having a drink poured @Minster2012 - we'll form a line!

Oh jesus @skip86 we posted at the same time. I'm so sorry. I honestly have no words. You deserve so much better than this. Sending so much love and strength across the pond!!! We're all here for you, virtually holding your hand xxxx

@Skip86 😲 take him to the cleaners, wtaf!

@Skip86 I've just had a look. Mostly looks like videos of him just miming to songs? Which is weird in itself! I can't understand why people would follow that. I also don't understand tictock and had to download the app to watch.
I find these kind of apps really strange. Love yourself type apps. I just don't get it at all.

Congratulations @ttcabroad 🥳🥳🥳 we were due some more bfps let's hope you're the start of a run of them

Hope you're feeling better today @franklydear & your DS is just the sweetest trying to take care of you 💕

Loving all the happy nail coloured pics. I must confess I dont actually think I've painted my nails since my wedding 2 years ago and even that was just a French polish (done in a hotel room in the dark at 2am by phone torch light trying not to waken DS who'd been up till then screaming with an ear infection 🙈). I keep my nails really short as the feeling of anything hitting the under side of my nails gives me the heebie jeebies! While I love them on other people I just can't do gels or falsies or anything as the feeling makes me shudder for some random reason. But I may dig to the back of the drawers see if I can find a polish in the spirit of our Saturday nail sesh to brighten the place up 😊

@kirky658 hooray for pup going back to sleep, tho as @minster2012 said its preparing your for children, 7am is considered a mega lie in in this household .......I'm clocking it for pay back when he's a teenager and doesn't want to get out of bed 😂

Chart does look promising @2020mission hope it's not just being a tease, hope many dpo does your temp normally start to dip at?

Hope you got to the top of that hill @dollybird89 💪

Oh @Skip86 what an utter arsehole!!! The only tiny positive that could possibly come from this is at least now you won't have any doubts in your head or what ifs blaming yourself at all for the relationship not working, he 100% is the one with the problem and you can walk away from this with your head held high. Wish there was more we could do for you but for now feel free to rant away at any time day or night till you feel a release from the anger and pain he's caused. Massive hugs.

@Skip86 throwing many virtual drinks on him right now. A whole bar full. But it would be a waste of drink tbh.

I have looked at some at the videos, and I'm also new to tiktok, after @Dollybird89's workout videos, so literally downloaded it this week and I've just looked & I don't get it?!! It might be the Aussie humour of his "bobcats" or lack of but ehhhhh???

Errrrr so would it not help if we comment on every single video with "bet your WIFE likes this one making out you are single whilst SHE runs the business"

Oh @Skip86 I'm so so sorry!!! What an absolute fucking dick!!! I cannot believe someone who you have a life and children with could do that!! He doesn't deserve you!! The positive you can take from this is at least you won't have to spend another minute with that bellend!! Sending you massive hugs❤️

Don't worry if you are confused when watching the videos - we all are. Every single one of the people I have told and shown (so far just my parents, bro, sis and about 4 close friends), are utterly flummoxed by it. My GP (who did a mental health evaluation on him) and psychologist were also lost for words. Said they'd never seen anything like it.
Yep he just lip syncs to songs, scenes from movies, and throws in the occasional 'live music' vid of himself playing the guitar (if you haven't already, listen to one of them near the top to get an understanding of how utterly shit he is at singing. Note I have never told him I think that he's shit).
His whole 'plan' is to use his good looks to lure women (mostly) into his page, get more followers, and then release his album.
So so so bizarre.

Ps @Skip86 I'd love you to do a revenge one btw but I know you are too good for that and it might boost it. Like @Vil10 said it lets you get rid of the bellend quicker.

@Minster2012 as soon as he told me about the page (the day he told me he wanted to separate) and I set up an account to be able to look at his, he blocked me from commenting!

vm.tiktok.com/ZSJR819Uo/

That's the link to my page. I am following only one person, and it's the woman I suspect he is having a more personal relationship with. She's in the bloody US and he's in Oz. What a fucking child.
Do you all remember me telling you his dad left his mum after 40 years of marriage, for a woman he met online in the US? That happened exactly a year ago now, and this fuckwit is replicating the behaviour that he was so devastated about.
I'm so so sad and hurt.

@Skip86 I just don't understand his mentality, it's like he's had a break down/mid life crisis!!! Is he apologetic for it all or does he see nothing wrong with his behaviour?? Suppose it makes no odds, he's still an arsehole

@notyetamumbuttrying no I'm not on Instagram , total fomo 🙈

@Vil

@Vil10 nope he thinks it's totally normal and acceptable. "It's just acting" is his catch cry.

Ps so sorry to hijack the thread, I'm just reliving it all here and the emotions are coming out. Absolutely reeling.

@Skip86 no need for sorry, we're here for you

Sorry about the bfn @2020mission but hopefully it's just too soon , that chart looks great but tgen we have seen some damn troll charts here!
Happy birthday @Tornado2Inc
Oh my God @Skip86! That's such a sad update and really bizarre, it does sound like he has lost touch with reality. The more of your updates I've read the less sense this makes. Can he not see what he has in front of him! Wtf is he doing ?