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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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TTC aged 42

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welshmercury · 16/02/2021 15:57

Anybody else in their 40s? Had a TMFR April 2020 and am desperate to just try even though I realise it may not happen. I don’t want to regret not trying. Worried about risks as we had a chromosome problem. It was an unplanned pregnancy.

Husband won’t have sex with me which is a pain as he says he’ll be ready next month. Ovulating today and I just feel heartbroken. He said in January next month.

Think I’m going to divorce but then have to hook up with someone new fairly quick. Is there a baby making Tinder app?

I’m rambling but am losing my mind

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SamoyedFan123 · 16/02/2021 16:38

Hi OP, just wanted to offer a handhold as it sounds like you could do with one. I'm so sorry to hear about your loss last year, and to hear that your DH isn't cooperating - what's his issue? Is he feeling 'pressure' to perform because he knows it's ovulation day? Men seem to struggle with that quite commonly - best not to let them know when the important days are in my experience. (I'm trying to work out whether the divorce comment was a joke or not!)
Whilst chromosomal issues are always a possibility (at any age), it's definitely not certain to say that you'll have another one just because you have had one before - every egg is different! There are quite a lot of ladies 40+ on the TTC and pregnancy boards so you are definitely not alone. I've recently turned 43 and currently 19 weeks pregnant after having twins at 41 - it's a lovely age to be a new mum in my experience 😊

SamoyedFan123 · 16/02/2021 16:39

Also I'm guessing you are also Welsh? 😊

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welshmercury · 17/02/2021 00:11

@SamoyedFan123 Welsh through and through lol

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welshmercury · 17/02/2021 00:13

The divorce thing is high on my mind as losing the baby has made me focus on being happy and I’m not. I spend every evening alone while he is gaming. Before Covid I was busy with friends etc so it didn’t bother me as much but after a whole year I’m done.
Congrats on your pregnancy.

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bitheby · 17/02/2021 00:23

I'm 44 and trying to conceive with a donor. I found him through the Just a Baby app. So yes. There is a tinder for baby making.

No idea if it will happen for me. Mostly I think it won't due to my age but I'm not giving up yet. If you want it, go for it.

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