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Baby Bandwagon March TTC

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WillowRose1411 · 15/02/2021 21:19

@Cakelaur
@KazMumTo2
@girlmummy25
@Mellous

Let’s start with us and add others if they pop up on the other thread. Hopefully March is our month and we get a Mother’s Day BFP 🤞🏼
Cd1 for me!

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Confused678866 · 16/03/2021 15:47

Spoke too soon.. think AF has just shown 😭

Lalala1985 · 16/03/2021 16:13

@Annannanna maybe you can take a break and resume in a few months time?

LKB89 · 16/03/2021 16:15

@Annannanna aww that must be tough.
Maybe test it out one month of not using OPKS etc, so the stress of it is eased and you're just seeing how it goes...but kinda like strategically know when you're ovulation is around 🤣 is that cruel? Or would he actually want you to go on contraception?

@Confused678866 noooooo why is she such a witch! I'm sorry 😞 here's to an Xmas baby x

ShonC · 16/03/2021 16:19

@Confused678866 thank you for your response❤️. It feels sooo much easier. Positive vibes and baby dust coming your way too xx

Confused678866 · 16/03/2021 16:22

@LKB89 Not sure what's going on.. I assume its period though but very light at the moment. The only issue I have now is I think I need to see the doctor.. last month and this month (if this is AF) my cycles are 22 days... which obviously isn't great when TTC. Not really the outcome I wanted at all. Me and OH have just had a row too because he knows I'm worried and I think he secretly is too. Xx

1997Babyx · 16/03/2021 17:04

Now it's my turn for a vent!!

I have just had the most horrible conversation with a doctor I have ever had.

I wanted to call as I was feeling a bit rubbish with having another CP just to ask if there is anything they think I can do to try and prevent it in the future - and also just because I wanted it on record that it had happened again if needed for anything in the future

It was a male doctor I have never had before over the phone. I couldn't have been less sympathetic. He spent the whole time telling me that at the early stage the pregnancy is and I quote 'basically nothing' just a blob and 'do you realise how common this is' and he literally said to me I don't understand why you are calling or what you are asking me.

Like sorry I know it is just cells at this stage but I saw a positive test and the heartbreak of the pregnancy not being viable is real!!!!

He didn't even know the term 'chemical pregnancy' he said we generally just say 'early miscarriage' - I was like erm nope in my head but him just saying the word miscarriage meant I just started crying .. then he just said 'why are you so upset' in the most patronising tone I've ever heard

Today has been crap anyway and now I'm absolutely beside myself

Sorry to rant - I'm home alone working from home and I can't call my partner in this state while he is working. Just needed to vent

Really sorry to hear AF has got some of you guys. Truly feel for everyone who is TTC and having difficulties.

It's literally one of the hardest thing ever

Xx

1997Babyx · 16/03/2021 17:05

@1997Babyx

Now it's my turn for a vent!!

I have just had the most horrible conversation with a doctor I have ever had.

I wanted to call as I was feeling a bit rubbish with having another CP just to ask if there is anything they think I can do to try and prevent it in the future - and also just because I wanted it on record that it had happened again if needed for anything in the future

It was a male doctor I have never had before over the phone. I couldn't have been less sympathetic. He spent the whole time telling me that at the early stage the pregnancy is and I quote 'basically nothing' just a blob and 'do you realise how common this is' and he literally said to me I don't understand why you are calling or what you are asking me.

Like sorry I know it is just cells at this stage but I saw a positive test and the heartbreak of the pregnancy not being viable is real!!!!

He didn't even know the term 'chemical pregnancy' he said we generally just say 'early miscarriage' - I was like erm nope in my head but him just saying the word miscarriage meant I just started crying .. then he just said 'why are you so upset' in the most patronising tone I've ever heard

Today has been crap anyway and now I'm absolutely beside myself

Sorry to rant - I'm home alone working from home and I can't call my partner in this state while he is working. Just needed to vent

Really sorry to hear AF has got some of you guys. Truly feel for everyone who is TTC and having difficulties.

It's literally one of the hardest thing ever

Xx

*he couldn't have been less sympathetic
Lalala1985 · 16/03/2021 17:17

@Annannanna That’s awful! Are you able to change doctors? Sometimes it can be worth it even to get a second opinion.

Lalala1985 · 16/03/2021 17:18

[quote Lalala1985]@Annannanna That’s awful! Are you able to change doctors? Sometimes it can be worth it even to get a second opinion.[/quote]
Wrong tag!! I meant @1997Babyx

1997Babyx · 16/03/2021 17:29

@Lalala1985 yes I think I'm going to try and do that. It was my first appointment at that surgery as we recently moved.
Definitely don't want another with him. I've looked online and they do have a female doctor too so perhaps will try her as hopefully she would at least be a little more understanding 🙃

Lalala1985 · 16/03/2021 17:50

@1997Babyx Fingers crossed for you. I went through an experience years back, where I started fainting, having constant headaches and my periods stopped. I saw every GP in my practice - none of whom were concerned about the lack of periods only the fainting and headaches, I got sent for all sorts of tests a heart scans, blood tests etc whereas I kept telling them there’s something wrong with my hormones, it went on for about 2-3 years like that. It wasn’t until I moved to a new surgery, saw a locum for something unrelated and just told him I was having other problems, and he went ‘you might have PCOS I’ll order a full hormonal blood test’. It wasn’t that, but hyperprolactemia, got medication and a month later my periods were back, and the headaches and fainting gone. Definitely worth getting a second opinion :)

KazMumTo2 · 16/03/2021 18:25

@WillowRose1411 so how’s the new house??? Hope you’re all settled in!!! I’ve completely lost track on this thread of how every one from last months thread is doing...how u doing with TTC???

I’m about a week away from ovulation AGAIN 🙄 it’s all getting a bit repetitive now 😔 the constant negatives and AF making her wicked appearance!

ShonC · 16/03/2021 20:00

@1997Babyx I am so sorry you've experienced such an unsympathetic doctor. What an actual idiot!!! Hope you're okay and if you ever need to speak to a doctor again state that you do not want anything to do with him. I don't get why some people are doctors when they really don't seem to care!

Lots of love to you xx

MisssSarahhh · 16/03/2021 20:17

Hey everyone I’m new here and TTC #1 I’d love some advice on my situation I’ve just done a post! 🙂

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WillowRose1411 · 16/03/2021 20:45

@1997Babyx I’m so sorry you experience this today. You can make a formal complaint to your surgery, it might stop a similar phone call in the future to another poor woman. I’m definitely not an avid complainer but I don’t think this is acceptable and he should have been more sympathetic and helpful. And I’d definitely try again with someone else- preferably female!

@KazMumTo2 I know I’m finding it tricky too! I’ve had a few bfn and waiting for af to arrive tomorrow 😔 feeling completely deflated and gutted as I know we all are! The house is good and keeping me busy/ skinting me out 😂 a week away from ov wow you are well ahead of me now! Huge good luck for this cycle lovely! Check your personal messages xx

@Confused678866 sorry to ask again but how long have you been off of contraception? When do you usually ovulate?

@MisssSarahhh hi! What’s your situation lovely? Xx

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LKB89 · 16/03/2021 20:48

@1997Babyx what a heartless man. Absolutely complain about him, a bit on compassion wouldn't go a miss. Sorry you experienced that ❤️

Confused678866 · 16/03/2021 20:50

@WillowRose1411 I've been off birth control since September 2020, started TTC in January 2021. Have only been using OPK's this month. I had my peak OPK on CD12 so I was guessing when I put ovulation at CD13 xx

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WillowRose1411 · 16/03/2021 20:55

@Confused678866 have you considered trying temping too just to really pin point and make absolutely sure when/if you ovulate?

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Confused678866 · 16/03/2021 20:57

@WillowRose1411 I didn't really want to as I feel that it just adds to the stress but it looks like I'm going to have to do it really.
It's so hard because I'm up and down every night to my toddler and as soon as he's awake in the morning, I'm up and having to go straight in to him. I've read lots of posts about it and noticed that you have to do it every morning around the same time when you get up, is that right? X

1997Babyx · 16/03/2021 20:59

Thanks so much everyone.

I am definitely considering making a complaint in. I've never in my life made a complaint before haha so might wait until my emotions settle a little bit before doing anything 🤣

MisssSarahhh · 16/03/2021 21:02

@WillowRose1411 (Sorry if this is long!) So I have pcos so periods have always been irregular but I did have them just every one every few months or so instead of every month religiously. No other pcos symptoms and periods were always light and short when I did have them. Been taking the mini pill cerelle for almost 2 years but a stopped taking last Monday (8th March) to start trying to conceive 🙂

So DTD Sunday the 7th with a condom but was out of date 🤦🏻‍♀️ But took my last pill that evening.

Then DTD first time completely unprotected on Wednesday the 10th and Saturday the 13th.

Across Monday and Tuesday this week 15th/16th I’ve had slight cramping in lower pelvis and back. And today Tuesday 15th I’ve been exhausted.

Just wondering I know it’s so early but are these symptoms just coming off the pill symptoms? I feel they are too early for the first lots of unprotected sex from the Wednesday and Saturday as not even been a week. But because I don’t know when I ovulated could I possibly ovulated that Wednesday and implanted now and that’s the cramps? Can you ovulate only a few days after stopping the mini pill? Or is there even a chance these symptoms are very early signs of pregnancy from the out of date condom day? Is it possible even with pcos I could be very fertile right now since I’ve heard you can be most fertile when stopping the pill?

Sorry I know I have so many questions but I’m so new to this and very excited and hopeful so any advice or similar experiences would be handy! 😄 Look forward to chatting with you all!

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WillowRose1411 · 16/03/2021 21:15

@Confused678866 yes you do need to do it at roughly the same time each morning. I am the same as I’m usually up in the night some nights / early in the morning with my girls but I do my best with what I have 😂 how early does he wake? Can he hold on for like 30 seconds whilst you take your temp? I know it’s tricky! I find temping eases some of the stressing as it takes out the guess work!

@MisssSarahhh I’m sorry I am going to be really useless I’m not sure at all! I haven’t been on contraception for a while now and was t actively trying when I came off of it so I don’t remember much really. I know it can take a while for your body to adjust back into regular cycles and I’m sure anything goes in regards to symptoms! If you don’t have a period by end of the month maybe take a test? X

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WillowRose1411 · 16/03/2021 21:20

@MisssSarahhh really hope this is your month though! 🤞🏼 I have many friends who conceived first month off of the pill (and I’m very jealous 😂) sorry again I wasnt much help hope you get some answers on your post xx

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Confused678866 · 16/03/2021 21:20

@WillowRose1411 Haha you sound like me then! Well, it differs really.. it was always 5am but thankfully he's got later recently... usually between 6 and 6:30.
Currently working from home though so not having to get up as early - but starting back in the office as of the 30th March and I'll be up at 5:30am Tuesday - Friday. Don't really want to be setting my alarm sat/sun/mon at 5:30 to do temp and I don't think my OH would appreciate it either. So I don't really know where to start with it all! 🤯

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WillowRose1411 · 16/03/2021 21:24

Ok well maybe tues-fri take your temp at 5.30am then on the other days you can use a bbt converter. Just type it into google and it calculates what your bbt would have been had you taken it at your usual time! Super easy 😁

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