TTC 6 cycles in aged 35, very impatient

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Hello,

This is my first post here and first ever about TTC. I came off the pill back in May but we weren't officially TTC, though I've been tracking and trying to seduce him during the window (he has a low sex drive & is tired after long days at work tue-fri so only likes weekend morning sex). The last 6 cycles we've had sex 2ce in every fertile window.

My partner has finally given the go ahead for us to officially try now. So I've bought Conception Plus, and he knows we'll be having shagathons from now on in the fertile window, tired or not.

As I'm 35 (just turned 35 last week) I had a blood test 2 weeks ago and he's having a sperm analysis on Weds, to check any issues. We are both healthy, I'm athletic shape, him average/v slightly overweight, non smokers, I rarely drink, him a couple whiskey/rum a week. I switched to decaf tea I've been putting chia & sunflower seeds, walnuts and Brazil nuts in most our meals (good for sperm) the last month, lots of leafy greens too. Minimal white grains. He's on a multivitamin and I'm on pregnacare vitamins with folic acid

My cycles are 26-30 days, but on 26-28 day cycles I have the egg white discharge on day 13. Day 14 or 15 for 29/30 day cycles. So I've got to be ovulating day 14-16... Sex day 10-11, 13-15 is the plan (tho he can't ejaculate for 2 days prior to sperm analysis which is this Wed (day 11), so it's been day 8 and will be 11-15 this cycle

I always tell myself I won't get my hopes up, but at the back of mind I can't help it and I imagine all sorts of symptoms but then get the dreaded AF.

I'm so desperate for a baby, I end up googling in bed at 1am when I should be asleep! It's a never ending cycle of waiting for period, then waiting for fertile window on a loop!

I believe ewcm can be slightly off as an ovulation indicator as you get older. Why not track more ways than one? Maybe try and keep it away from your partner in case it freaks him out, but you could use the pee strips or confirm ovulation tracking your temperature. My cycle is irregular so I used an ovusense (an internal monitor). My ovulation tended to be later than I expected.

I know the feeling so good luck!

My husband sounds similar! I'm 34, 6 months, 5 cycles in.

Are you paying privately for testing? Sounds like you have big plans!

Good luck. I'm back on cycle day 2 of cycle 6 so feeling a little gloomy

@CycloGoose

My husband sounds similar! I'm 34, 6 months, 5 cycles in.

Are you paying privately for testing? Sounds like you have big plans!

Good luck. I'm back on cycle day 2 of cycle 6 so feeling a little gloomy

No the testing is through NHS. Think they do as standard if you say you've been trying for a year

@pjani

I believe ewcm can be slightly off as an ovulation indicator as you get older. Why not track more ways than one? Maybe try and keep it away from your partner in case it freaks him out, but you could use the pee strips or confirm ovulation tracking your temperature. My cycle is irregular so I used an ovusense (an internal monitor). My ovulation tended to be later than I expected.

I know the feeling so good luck!

I think that would just bring more stress tbh and it's only been 6 cycles. I'm pretty confident my ovulation is between day 12-16 maximum, tho likely 14-16, so having sex day 10-15/16 gotta be enough (unless there are fertility issues)