Has Covid made you change your mind about TTC?

[Chimboo]

My husband and I had decided we would start TTC this year after a lot of fence sitting. I am 36, he is 43. When we made that decision we thought (naively probably) that all this crap would be over this year. Obviously we now know 2021 is going to be nearly as shit as 2020 - if not just as shit - and I don’t think I want to TTC until things are back to normal. It’s not Covid I’m worried about it’s the restrictions. I know I’m at an age where I shouldn’t put it off but I don’t think I’d cope well being pregnant/having a baby in lockdown (I am struggling with it as it is!) and there’s also silly daft things that cross my mind for some reason like “oh we won’t have the opportunity to go on a holiday just the two of us” or “oh I won’t have one last opportunity to go out for bottomless Prosecco with my mates and spend the following day hungover as hell” etc. Does anyone else feel like me or am I just being stupid?

I guess some of it might be me not being ready to give up my “old life” yet when I’ve lost a year of it and am about to lose a second?

At 36 I wouldn’t have delayed at all to be honest regardless of the pandemic, but neither does it sound like you’re actually ready to try. Do you really want a child? Not wanting to give up your lifestyle is a valid choice.

I really did think I was ready, and was so excited about it. I don’t know what’s happened.