Officially reached one year of TTC #3

[Glitterandcrimson]

AF arrived this morning so we are now on our 12th cycle. We already have DS1 and DS2, we also had DD who was stillborn 2 years ago due to clinical errors. I recieved counselling for a year before we tried again. I am so desperately longing for another baby.

I'm fed up of being told how lucky I am to already have 2 children, even the midwives when we lost DD kept telling me that. Like, at least you've already got children to go home to. As if that made it any easier.

Support or help is non existent because I already have children too. We can't afford any private tests. Absolutely no one I speak to in real life understands why I want another child. Why I don't just give up and "be happy with what I've got". I am happy. I love my boys more than anything in the world. But why does having 2 children mean I'm not supposed to want any more?

I am just utterly fed up this morning. I temp, I use OPKs, I get plenty of EWCM, both me and DH take multivitamins, we dtd every day in my fertile window, my luteal phase is 13 days so plenty long enough. Whyyyyy is it not happening

Anyone else TTC #3 and it taking longer than anticipated?

Hi, firstly I'm so sorry about your loss ❤️ I too lost my wee boy last year, halfway along my pregnancy so not as far on as you but I do understand how it feels to give birth to your child who sadly was not alive. I'm so glad you received counselling, Ive just finished mine and it definitely pulled me out of a dark place. I also have two older boys (11 and 9) and it is very hurtful if anyone has spouted the "be grateful for what you have" line, as if I would ever not be appreciative of my sons. However, until someone has lost a child they cannot understand the longing to have a baby again.

I'm on cycle 7 now so not quite 12, but you're so right, it is so disheartening when you do OPKs and take the right vitamins and it isn't happening :( My luteal phase is also 13 days...are we the same person?😂

I wish I had real concrete advice, but I do so hope it does happen for you and please feel free to message any time if you need to vent or have a moan, I know what it's like ❤️ Have you consulted your GP for blood tests on you/perhaps a sperm analysis for your partner? I'm having say 21 bloods today to check my progesterone levels! xx

@KerryW87 Thank you so much for replying. I'm sorry for your loss too Honestly it sometimes feels like no one else in the world is in the same boat as me so it's nice to hear from someone who is (well maybe not nice, but you know what I mean!).

I think I just need to know I'm not alone sometimes. I naively thought I'd be pregnant by now and it really is just so disheartening every month when you're doing all the right things! My GP was really dismissive when I spoke to her a few months ago, I might call again and ask to speak to a different one. X

@Glitterandcrimson So sorry, with homeschooling and work today has been hectic! Just getting a cup of tea now and a chance to reply!

I know exactly what you mean, it helps to know you're not alone because it really can feel like it at times.

I was exactly the same - I was sort of in such a low place I became frantic about trying again immediately which I know now I wasn't emotionally ready for. I must've read every forum post I could find on how long it took women to fall pregnant after a late loss and put immense pressure on myself to be pregnant before my wee boy's due date, which of course came and went. I imagined I'd be pregnant by now, it's hard to take.

I would absolutely phone for a different one! You've been trying for a year so it's not as though you've had one failed month of TTC and phoned up! I was so lucky to have a caring GP who was happy for me to have bloods done. Should have my results back in a week. It might give you peace of mind to know exactly where you stand with it all! Happy to chat any time if you need ❤️ xx

@Glitterandcrimson Hi, was thinking about you when I checked Mumsnet this morning and thought I'd see how you're doing? Did you try and speak to a different GP? That's us on to cycle 8 now, another month out the window! x