TTC No 3 at almost 36? Normal?

[BabyBorn]

Hi everyone,

Wanted a view on this. I am 36 next month. Husband is 55 but looks fabulous for his age and most people don't expect him to be that old. We have a 15 year old (16 next month) and 8 year old. I am feeling broody. I am not sure if it because I am becoming of an age where I am realising I am on the last chance saloon?! We have a comfortable life at the moment. Not sure what is making me feel like this. Is it age?! Anyone else feel the same?!

Me!! I'm 32 dh is 40. Kids are 10 and 6 we decided to go for it in October, fell pregnant straight away but had a mmc in December. We're back to ttc again now but with no pressure on ourselves. Where are you in your cycle? I think I'm due to ovulate today but we'll see

I wouldn’t be concerned about your age but honestly I think your husband is too old. Does he want a newborn at 56? Or to be in his seventies before his child leaves home? Perhaps he does but it seems unlikely.

Also, those are some big age gaps between your children and would be the same again. It sounds like you had your first at 20 and your husband would be in his seventies before the last one leaves....don’t you want any part of your life together just to be independent adults?

It’s a personal decision of course but on paper I absolutely wouldn’t in your position.

Your husband may look younger but that means nothing in terms of internal health and the ageing process. He will very likely slow down considerably in the next ten years.

Hi! I'm 32 and husband is 37. We have DD8 and DS6 and TTC.
I'm wondering if I'm just too wrinkled up inside and need to give it up. I've had no egg released or period this month - first time in my life everything isn't just regular and it's got me in knots.

Feel like I might be bringing myself more stress than it's worth but I really want one.

You're not alone! Lots of us are still trying well into thirties.

Seems like you feel the urge to pro create every 8 years. Attenborough should study you! It's your mating season!!

Hi all. Sorry about the late response!

It's been years since I actively posted on mumsnet so can't remember how to reply to all of you separately!

I am a few days away from AF.

Whateverjudy, at times this is what I worry about! Not about him being in his 70's and another child leaving at around that time ( people can lose parents at any age and not from age related loses) but the age gaps between the children.

I have been off the pill for almost two years and we have been using condoms and logging my cycle to try and avoid ovulation times.

Maybe it is a bad idea! Maybe it is what Omi suggested and the need to have another baby is just a hormonal glitch!! Lol

Not an hormonal glitch! Just your mating season. Your Pon Farr... that's a joke only for Star Trek fans!

I finally received my period yesterday. It was so heavy I was crouched over in the shower for about 25 mins just letting loose over plug hole. I'm sorry, I know this is really over share. It was 6 days late. Cervix still high - usually it drops around period (I'm familiar with this because I use menstrual cup).

I'm sorry, I'm acutely aware of how gross I'm being.

I just don't know what the eff is wrong with my body!?

I wish I weren't in lock down with so much time to obsess over these things. Argh.

@BabyBorn I think @WhateverJudy wasn't referring to your husband passing away when they're young, but rather pointing out that he'd be retired and still bogged down with child rearing until well into his sunset years. Most people would want to put kids behind them eventually, have some time to themselves, travel the world or whatever - your husband would be 74 before kid 3 would be 18...