Feb Bus 2021 - no more TRYING to conceive, let's blimin do this!

[BubsNumber2inTheMaking]

Here we go again girls! 💕 Wishing you all so much baby dust for this cycle! 👶🏼
CD4 for me today, cycle #60000000 at least. 🤦🏼‍♀️ TTC bubs #2 since Jan 2020.
2 miscarriages, umpteen national lockdowns, at least a stone heavier 🙄 Let's do this 💪❤️

@gracie2307
My boobs are killing , took my bra off this aft 🤣 but its a bit too early for a positive , apparently implantation on day 8 has the highest success , too early and too late can increase risk of mc and i really dont want another. Think il test again on friday xx are you on day 6 of 2ww? Xx

@gracie2307 Yes definitely! 👏 I’m going through those annoying few days where I know I could possibly be feeling symptoms by now (I’m 8DPO) so every tinge or slightly different sensation and I convince myself this is the month🙈 when will I learn, eh? 😂

We’ve been ttc since May but missed a month due to a very close family bereavement and not DTD at all that month. How old are you? I’m 28 and my DP is 30.

Yes I’m trying to be optimistic (although I can’t lie, I have had a complete meltdown the past few months when AF has shown up). Each month for the past three a close friend has announced she’s pregnant too pretty much bang on AF arriving. DP and I actually have a running joke on who it will be this month!

Have you had any tests done yet? Xx

@gracie2307 thanks I'll have a look. I don't know if anything is going to work for me as im certain I have endo but will keep trying anyway

@sunshineandshowers3 Haha I am the same, I overanalyse every symptom in the 2ww 🤣 Its funny isn't it because I swear I never used to notice things like cramps, sore boobs etc before TTC. Do you know when you will test soon?

Ahh we are similar ages! I am 29, my DH is 28. We have been married for 2 years, been together for 10 years! How long have you and DP been together?

Aw hun I get what you mean its hard when close friends/family are all pregnant at the same time and the disappointment when AF arrives. Hopefully this will be our month and we will have babies for 2021 🙂🥰

I've recently taken a day 21 progesterone test to see how my levels are , will let you know how I get on! How about you?

Xx

Ahh I'm sorry @Dogmum13 have they said anything about tests for endo at your docs? I know it can be quite hard to find in scans, I actually had to go through a laproscopy a few years back. They didn't find anything significant in terms of endo at the time although I did have a few cysts on my ovaries. My friend recently had a lap op last week and they found quite a lot of endo tissue but the lap itself isn't too bad its just day surgery and about a week or so of feeling a bit bruised/sore. Xx

@gracie2307 yes I've been referred for endo in August past. I had a lap 7 years ago but they didn't find anything then. I've got pretty much every symptom this time though.

@gracie2307 I’m completely the same...I didn’t care less about symptoms before ttc. Fortunately I’ve never suffered with painful periods and they’re not particularly long either (which I worry may hurt our chances of conceiving). Only saving grace is that they’ve always been very regular. I won’t test until I’m late. I don’t even have any tests in the house. The crushing disappointment of a BFN is just too much for me. When will you test?

Ah similar ages as well then 😊 we’ve been together 7 years. We were due to get married last Spring but Covid put pay to that. Focused all our attention on renovating our house now and having an extension. Anything to occupy the mind from TTC!

Oh yes 😊let me know and I hope you get on okay. I’ve had my 21 day bloods to check if I’m ovulating and all was fine. DP was meant to have his SA but that got put on hold due to lockdown. Hopefully we hear soon 🤞.

Gosh I hope this is our year - itching to buy a ‘born in 2021’ babygrow but know I must resist and not be a crazy lady! 🤪xxx

Did another FRER this morning and it's the same as yesterday if not a bit fainter ☹️ going to stop testing for a couple of days and see what happens

Top was yesterday's, bottom is today, what do you think ladies?

@Tara1711
Take a repeat pic of the bottom one near a window because its easier to see in natural light xx

@Tara1711 I'm not seeing anything 😢

@Tara1711 I think I can see a super faint line. How many DPO are you?x

I'm out this month. AF showed up this morning 😭 - longer cycle than usual - for once the app was right!

Onto cycle 8 now 🤷🏻

Morning ladies, I've come on here for a moan! My husband has really pissed me off this morning and I know I'm being unreasonable but can't snap myself out of the mood I'm now in. 🤦🏼‍♀️😡
Basically I'm due to ovulate tomorrow, have dtd the last 2 mornings before work and it's worked really well. This morning we had the cleaner coming at 8:45 so talked about getting up earlier and getting ds to nursery by 8 so we'd still have time but husband would not stop working! He regularly starts work at 3am as works for local gov which is mental atm due to covid, but is supposed to stop at 7ish to help me with ds so I can get up and get hair/make-up done before work too.
Anyway, he stopped work but then starts playing with ds rather than getting him ready or getting in the shower. He also promises to take him to the park BEFORE nursery. And whilst ds is munching on breakfast, I find hubby back at his desk working rather than getting up. It made me so mad. Here I was, getting myself looking nice, picking out nice underwear/shaving my legs/getting the house tidy ahead of cleaner arriving and he just DOESNT GET IT.
Obviously he ends up being late, doesn't get back from dropping ds off until 8:30am not leaving us enough time to dtd before she arrives. It's made me so mad. I know I'm overreacting but I just feel let down. Sometimes I just feel like this whole frigging ttc bollocks is on my back. He wants a baby, but just doesn't seem to appreciate how much EFFORT I'm putting in...with reading/researching stuff, the supplements, the diet stuff, the fertility clinic stuff, not to mention the preening or the tww angst, or the effect the mc have had on me physically.
Grrrrrrrr! 😡🤬😡🤬
I KNOW he's not the worst husband and does care, and is supportive. I just wish sometimes the man could be the 'vessel' and take on all the stress, and I could just swan up and shoot my load! 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️

Eugh, that's it. Moan over. Thanks for letting me unload ladies (not that you actually got a choice!)xx

@BubsNumber2inTheMaking I think I am about 12 DPO but not exactly sure

@MgW1 I can see it in person but can't get a photo to pick it up really

I feel so on edge today, yesterday I was really sure it was the start of something and today I feel like all hope has been ripped away

@BubsNumber2inTheMaking vent away!! I know how frustrating it can be. They want a baby but really have no idea how much stress it actually is.
I tend not to talk to my husband much about the details of TTC because I don't want to put him off but I sometimes wish he knew what we go through!! I literally made him get out of his work clothes the other morning as he was leaving to DTD as it was my O day and we hadn't done it the two days before. Yes he was 10 minutes late for work but no way did I want to feel any regret when my AF comes.

My advice (not that you have to take it!) is that I wouldn't be pissy with him but try and DTD at some point again? Is there any way you can DTD even tomorrow on O day? That way, like me, you won't regret not having that one more push at it.

I hope you have a lovely day, and you feel better for venting on here. xx

@BubsNumber2inTheMaking
Do you dtd every day? My husband will only do every other! Its hard when you work unconventional hours if he is up at 3 am and busy as well. If your due to O in 2 days then dont let it get to you , you can dtd tomorrow , you can afford a day of today. Xxx

BFN this a.m on first response but then realised I had ordered the Rapid result from amazon by mistake 😫🙈 well i aint ordering anymore so thats me done with testing til the weekend. Xx

@BWaiting Thanks lovely! Your message made me lol 😂
I try not to be crazy the rest of the month but FW is so crucial! I'm sure he'll grovel once cleaner has gone and probs have a lunchtime fumble...thank goodness for wfh! I'm overreacting I know. I just hate having to dtd when we're bickering! I want to feel loving and like I actually WANT to have sex with him! 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️ We've got separate offices at home to work in so gives me a bit of cool-off time. I'm sure we'll be fine later xx

Thanks @MgW1 . I think ov is tomorrow. And I've actually got EWCM today 🤗🤗🤗🤗 so excited by that after having bugger all post-mc last month!
I'm sure we'll be able to dtd at lunchtime or tonight...just feels like more effort when not liking him that much! 🤣🤦🏼‍♀️ It'll be fine I'm sure.

Oh no to buying the rapid results test! So annoying. I've done that in the past too 🤦🏼‍♀️ Ain't over yet though! Keeping fingers crossed that AF keeps away!xx

@BubsNumber2inTheMaking
Used them before 12dpo ish but only 9dpo and i dont think they are particularly sensitive , i think supermarket ones are probably more so, pissed off iv wasted one!!!! 🙈🤣
Yes try and fit it in , sounds promising re: ewcm! Xx

@BubsNumber2inTheMaking toooootally get you!! Rant away! They have such an easy life when it comes to TTC. Although my DH is painstakingly aware of all my Google and symptom spotting they don’t live it so just don’t get it🙄 still plenty of time to DTD though x

@JeanieJ sorry to hear AF showed up, hope you’re alright. Fingers crossed this cycle is the one! Xx

We’re ending the FW today, but will still DTD tonight & tomorrow to cover all basis. Also starting 75mg of aspirin daily from tomorrow, apparently it helps with blood flow. And I’ll be wearing socks 24/7 for warm feet! I went down a Google rabbit hole and read warm feet mean warm uterus in some cultures so I’ll try that too... honestly throwing all I have at it this month. Any and all weird tips are welcome! 🤣

@Clapham4 thanks! DH is actually booked in for an SA next week on CD9, he actually has to abstain for 3 days before.
Also, our doctor said to wait 3 days in between DTD to allow sperm to build up? Anyone else heard that? I was gonna just do every other day this month.

@BubsNumber2inTheMaking I feel ya about partners ... they just don't understand 🤷🏻

@JeanieJ yeah I’ve heard the 2-3 days, but all friends of mine who’ve conceived said that every day was what worked for them so who knows! If only we knew the magic formula xx

@MgW1 I posted yesterday about doing that!!! Why are they in the same packaging!! 😤