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does anyone else not trust contraceptives?

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bealcain · 30/10/2007 16:10

ok so i wasn't sure where to put this one. here's my history!

i got pg with DS1 on my first ever time, whilst i was on the pill and we used a condom. i took my pill religously due to something that happened when i was 15.

3months after ds1 born i had a mirena coil fitted. i got PG with my mirena in when DS1 was 7months old.

maybe i'm uber fertile, if so does anyone want any eggs maybe babies are just meant to be, but now DS2 being 8months and still exclusively reastfeeding i'm wondering if i should bother thinknig about contraception and let DF handle all that. he tried to get snip but because i'm only 20 they wont do it(he's 31)

obv. can only take mini-ill and dont think i can honestly say i'd be able to remember to take it, with 2 small LOs to look after......i really want more babies DF definately doesn't, i will ot under any circumstances get my tubes tied and they wouldn't do it for years anyway...so what do we do?

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TheBlonde · 30/10/2007 16:15

I'm a bit confused who is DF?

I thought it meant darling father

VoodooLULUmama · 30/10/2007 16:17

injection

implant

condoms aswell as other contraception

exclusive BF not always the best contraception

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bealcain · 30/10/2007 16:23

darling fiance

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scorpio1 · 30/10/2007 16:24

you can get a patch too

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bealcain · 30/10/2007 16:25

its not a contraception at all once your periods come back. dont agree with actually stopping my body from havin periods or stopping the egg being released. does anyone know how the method of dofferent times of the month works?

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TheBlonde · 30/10/2007 16:25

phew, I was worried then!

Twitsthatgobumpinthenight · 30/10/2007 16:25

I was very carefully on the pill and got pregnant with no4 last christmas.

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bealcain · 30/10/2007 16:26

blonde - lol

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bealcain · 30/10/2007 16:26

do ou think maybe that i'm jsut really fertile?

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MrsArchieTheScaryInventor · 30/10/2007 16:34

Bealcain - I got pregnant with DS when I had the mirena coil in place too - the doctor told me there was a 1 in 10000 chance of becoming pregnant with it fitted! Maybe we're just both freaks of nature?? (or maybe we should start buying lottery tickets)

Don't really know what to suggest about contraception. DP long ago resigned ourselves to the fact that sometimes if it happens, it happens, and there's no amount of barriers, pills or creams going to stop it.

How about the coil or pill and condoms? Also, years ago there used to be these sheets of spermicide about an inch square called C-Film that you inserted just before having sex - I don't know if they're still around but maybe try something like those as well as the above?

VoodooLULUmama · 30/10/2007 16:36

if you feel that strongly, you have the option of

condoms

abstinence

or the rythm method ( or whatever it is called ) when you monitor your temperature and cervical mucus etc and only have sex at times you are not fertile

but if you are very fertile, it m ight not work for ouy

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bealcain · 30/10/2007 16:39

mrs archie - there's something called femidoms, but they are the cariest looking things in the world. like i said in original, idont mind another so sohuld it realy be up to me to sort it out?

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VoodooLULUmama · 30/10/2007 17:25

if your DF does not want anymore, then i thikn you both need to carefully consider the next step

if you are super fertile, how would he be if you had another contraception failure?

motherinferior · 30/10/2007 17:35

do NOT try the rhythm method. Don't don't don't. It doesn't work. Ask DD1.

hurdygurdy · 26/11/2007 15:49

can anyone tell me about sterilization?

bebopallula · 28/11/2007 12:13

Femidoms, i remember those things! they look like water sponges in the shape of a jellyfish with a little pink ribbon attached for easy removal! i don't trust anything and not had any sex..for a LONG time, it's bloody depressing! can anyone give me some advice or share their knowledge about sterilization?

bebopallula · 28/11/2007 12:21

persona machines calculate when u are ovulating and basically you have about one week out of a month when it is ok to have sex,in fact without contraception probably 3days! but i used it and it worked ok. The test sticks work out about £10 month.

Columbia · 28/11/2007 12:27

I used to positively enjoy the fact I was using something untrustworthy (diaphragm) because I wanted more babies!

Now I am thinking ahead and feel rather unnerved at the idea that most things can fail very easily.

Hmm.

Columbia · 28/11/2007 12:29

Bealcain, I'm sorry to sound nagging but if you want more babies and you fiance doesn't, it is probably a difficult place to start from when deciding on contraception!!

I hope you are both Ok with the compromise you will have to make. xx

bebopallula · 28/11/2007 20:48

am i the only one who doesn't feel ecstatic about more children?! don't get me wrong i love my kids and enjoy being a mum, but for me, this is enough. I guess i'm in the minority. i was hoping to get some more feedback about the snip for women.. even though i am a bit wary of operations, anyone in the same boat? or has been?

Columbia · 29/11/2007 05:47

I know my mother had it when she was 21, shortly after I was born. I don't know how willing they were to do it bt things were different in those days I expect. She was ill and knew she couldn't really cope with more, also my Dad was struggling to earn enough. They didn't have any money and were living at his Grandparents' house (before i arrived it was a flat in Hackney with 3 walls (building work) so things were pretty desperate!
Mum had to grieve I think for the kids she never had, but she would have done anything for our little family, and Dad was very worried about money etc. so it seemed right to her.

PrePG · 29/11/2007 11:42

I don't understand why your DF can't have a vasectomy because you're only 20? What does your age have to do with it? Am I misunderstanding? Do you mean a doctor won't do it because you're young??

Nancy66 · 29/11/2007 13:17

The chances of the pill not working (if taken correctly) is virtually nil - for legal reasons the manufacturers claim they are 99% effective. The reality is that it's pretty much 100% effective.

It's misleading to say 'the pill didn't work' - if somebody got pregnant on the pill it will always be because it wasn't taken properly.

That could be through missing a pill, having an upset stomach, a bout of the runs, sickness, taken in conjunction with other medication, travelling and not realising (via changing time zones) that you've missed a day etc etc.

Heartmum2Jamie · 29/11/2007 13:44

I'm with Coumbia on this one, I thoroughly enjoy the fact that I am using a method of contraception that can be so dodgy (withdrawal), but I would absolutely love another child, so am happy to play russian roulette, it's kind of fun, something that was sorely lacking with before

I agree that if it is your DF who is adament about not wanting more children, the contraception choice should be his. Good luck!

Heartmum2Jamie · 29/11/2007 13:45

Sorry, Columbia even

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