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Deciding to TTC after a MMC 2.5years ago

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hazel2021 · 28/01/2021 19:58

Firstly, hi everyone and I'm really sorry for the long post. I don't know what I'm trying to achieve by writing this, or even what I want to gain out of it but I feel like I just need to do a brain dump..

My husband and I have a DS who's 6, we're so lucky to have him as we were informed 8 years ago the chances of a natural pregnancy was slim because of scarring so implantation is limited. Anyway, he's our 'miracle' and we're just obsessed with him. After we got married in 2018 we decided to try again, we achieved it once so we had faith. We were so lucky and fell within a couple of months. That pregnancy felt weird, I can't explain it but I just didn't feel pregnant, I had a early reassurance scan at 7 and 8 weeks and everything was fine. I went for my consultant app at 12+2 (due to previously having part of my cervix removed following the removal of CIN3 cells) which was 2 days before my 12 week scan and I explained to her that I didn't feel pregnant. She decided to scan me there and then and unfortunately we had suffered a MMC at 10+3 weeks. We were gutted.

From that point on we decided that we were lucky enough to have DS so we put it to the back of our head about having any more. Recently we've decided that we would like to try again and see if we can fall.

My confidence in falling pregnant is low & now I find myself so paranoid about having another MC with a future pregnancy. I'm telling myself I'm not going to become obsessed but here I am on here already 😂.. why is it I was and have been so happy with the thought of being a family of 3 for the last 2.5 years but now all I want and can think about is another child.

Anyway; if you've got this far thank you for reading. There's nothing anyone can do or say, I'm aware of that, just wanted to write down my thoughts.

Take care x

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BWaiting · 28/01/2021 22:29

Hi @hazel2021 I am sort of in the same boat (kind of...)
I had a MC then got pregnant and went on to have my son who is now 9.
Since then I have had 2 MC, with both I had an early scan at 7 weeks, by week 8 I knew something didn't feel right and went for another early scan with both and at 8 weeks there was no heartbeat and I MC. I find it strange that I had the same feeling with both.
Will all of those I fell pregnant quite quickly.

For a while, probably about 2 years now I haven't entertained the thought of trying again, I was so broken and hurt and the thought of going through that again made me feel sick every time I thought about it.....
In December, I had the sudden urge to want to try again, and here I am on cycle 2 of TTC and I'm so so impatient, I just want it to happen like NOW!

Although I'm very very scared still of what will happen when/if I do get pregnant, I'm just focusing on the now and TTC.

I hope that helps to know that you're not the only one who's scared but obsessing about getting pregnant ASAP! Haha
Wishing you all the very best of luck and good health in your TTC journey again xx

hazel2021 · 29/01/2021 02:24

Hi @BWaiting! Thank you so much for sharing your story with me! I'm so sorry for your losses 💔

You're so right, it's so frustrating and I think I need to do the same of only concentrating on ttc st the moment and not stress what a future pregnancy holds etc.

I want to have fun and not put pressure on myself, but it's hard isn't it. It's the one thing I want more than anything in the world. I'm really luckily to have a supporting husband who is on the same page 100% I just didn't want to share my anxieties with him when we're not even in that situation yet.

I hope you get your BFP quickly! Xx

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BWaiting · 29/01/2021 08:31

@hazel2021 thank you and I am also really sorry for your loss, it sounds like you've been through it a bit 😔
I know what you mean, I just really really want it now that I've finally decided I'm okay and want it to happen.
My husband is also really understanding and is taking a very relaxed approach to it, he's told me not to stress and put too much pressure on myself but he has no idea that I'm this crazy woman and 'need' it to happen now! Hahahah if he knew it was on my mind literally 24hours a day, he would think there was something wrong with me considering for 2 years I did NOT entertain the idea or thought.
How are you getting on with your cycles and how long have you been trying? xx

hazel2021 · 29/01/2021 08:51

@BWaiting it sounds like we're in the same boat! I feel like this really relaxed wife in front of my husband and then I come on here and let it all out! We've only been trying since December so it's still early days. My AF is due Feb 7th and every current twinge etc Is driving me up the wall. I know the brain works in a funny way as well so I'm trying to remain calm & just wait and see. I won't test early or anything, I'll hold off until 7th Feb. I haven't used any ovulation kits or anything as I feel that'll send me over the edge. I'm very aware when I'm ovulating and fertile so just making sure we DTD over that period more frequently. How long have you been TTC? xx

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BWaiting · 29/01/2021 09:25

@hazel2021 you sound pretty cool and calm about it all. I know a lot of ladies on here would be testing straight away haha
I'm on cycle 2 and CD2 today.
My first cycle was a bit shorter than expected at 26 days rather than 28.
I'm not very in touch with when I'm O I've never taken much notice but have been using an app to give me an idea.
I think this cycle I will use OPK's just to see if it works for me in terms of giving me more of an idea when I'm O, it might drive me mad though, so I plan to just DTD every other day and hope for the best.
You've not long to wait now, hoping it's a BFP for you 🤞🏼🤞🏼 xx

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