Am I having a missed miscarriage?

[Leo090813]

Hi ladies, I had a faint BFP 2 days before my AF came, assumed it was an indent/evap as period had come. This was 7 days ago and on day 2 of period I had EXTREME cramping to the point I was crying in bed. Sorry TMI but the blood was sooo dark almost black. My periods usually last 5 days MAX and I'm on day 7 now and still bleeding heavily which has had like small black clots in. No large clots from what I've seen. Does this sound like im having a MMC? My period pains have never ever been as bad as they were that night. I would just like to know if this is a MMC or weird period. Do you think if I tested it would show positive if it was indeed a MMC? Thanks ladies x

Good luck today, let's hope you get some answers

Hi ladies. Thanks for the advice to get checked, it unfortunately is ectopic so glad I came before it ruptured. They think it's likely it's disintegrating by itself as it's so small on the scan, but have to come back for repeat bloods etc to check levels decreasing as they had increased slightly today. Thanks for all advice x

Sorry to hear the news @Leo090813 but I'm really pleased you were finally seen. I know it is an awful thing to go through but if it resolves itself without the need for surgery or methotrexate, that is a good thing. Hope you're okay x

@Leo090813 wow I’m surprised they were able to see it on a scan with your hcg level as it is, sorry it isn’t good news but the not knowing can be awful and at least they could tell you what it is today.

Hopefully it does self resolve as Kirinm said to avoid the injection or surgery 🤞🏻. Sorry again xxx

I was told to test again in two weeks after a suspected miscarriage. Your levels don’t drop overnight, they slowly reduce. They won’t scan you before 6 weeks. I had an ectopic and still had to wait 6 weeks.

Just read your update OP. Sorry for your loss. I hope your body is sorting this and you don’t need surgery. It’s a pain going back and fourth being monitored.

Thanks for all your support and again thanks for the encouragement of getting help and contacting EPU. If I had left it like the a&e doc said it could have ruptured by the time I was seen again so I'm so grateful. X

Thank goodness they took you seriously! I'm so sorry you're going through this but so relieved it hasn't ruptured.

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I'm sorry that you are going through this. I can honestly say I know exactly how it feels. So glad you were able to be seen. Hopefully it resolves on its own. Its going to be a rough couple of weeks. Definitely, follow the advice that you would have been given. Hope you're OK and your dh is as well. Take Care x

I've just woken up from a nap and I think it's hit me. I felt ok earlier and now I feel like I've been hit by a tonne of bricks. I currently work at home doing accounts, I thought I could cope emotionally and physically but now I'm not sure I can. My work don't know I was pregnant, I'm not sure if I should self certificate for a few days while I process this. Or is that extreme considering I've not even had surgery or anything? I thought I was ok earlier and now I know I'm definitely not. Any advice appreciated. X

It’s not extreme, it’s a really really difficult time and a lot process. If nothing else you’ve suffered a loss.

I wish I had taken time off when I had mine. Luckily (!) the second one happened whilst I had annual leave booked off. Allow yourself to have a morning in bed with a hot water bottle and Netflix. It's not over indulgent at all. Some times we just have to be kind to ourselves.

I also told my manager discreetly when I had mine, as then if I needed time off or anything for an appointment for yet more bloods or a follow up scan I was given the time off no questions asked. It also helped to take some of the work pressure/load off.

Because of the nature of this type of loss It's a whole emotional roller-coaster from the barely there symptoms, vague bpf & bfn, getting a bfp finally and then the ectopic symptoms and because your body is bit confused the varying pregnancy symptoms. You and your dh have been on a hell of a ride.

I am truly sorry for your loss. xoxo

Thank you both for your replies. I've spoken to HR and they're fine for me to self cert for 7 days and see how I go. I feel bad as I'm working from home so hardly strenuous but it's the emotional side of it that I'm worried about. Thank you all x

I'm so sorry for your loss. You're bound to go through a lot of emotions, depression, anxiety, anger etc. You'll obviously get days when it's easier than others. Allow your self time and don't be afraid to get more time off if you need it. Take good care of yourself

Just read this post - aww hun bless you my heart goes out to you 💞🌸 definitely so good to take some time off work and look after yourself xxx pray that you do have a lovely healthy pregnancy soon when the time is right xxx

Hope you are on the mend and that this week will be a bit easier than last week. So glad you've taken some time off. Take care and rest up. All the very best wishes to you and your family