37Meant to be TTC today (about to ovulate) but so scared covid and a miscarriage etc

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Hi ladies
I am 37 with a 7 year old and meant to be starting ttc today (due to ovulate tomorrow or Monday) BUT I am really scared of all this covid stuff. I have never experienced a miscarriage before and I know risks are higher at my age...what if I experience one and need intervention and need to do it alone or what if I have an ectopic and need surgery and have to be put to sleep which is my biggest fear, and do it alone.

I just looking for a bit of hand holding I guess...I cannot talk to hubby as I already put this off last year due to my covid worries but decided to try in Jan as hopefully things will be better but they really are not here in the UK....plus I worry he will think I am backing out entirely as it took me years to want to ttc again.

I'm 35 and pregnant after multiple miscarriages - maternity services are still operating as usual if that reassures you although you're right you may have to go through some treatment on your own.

No one can make the decision for you at the end of the day, there are risks involved with getting pregnant and there are risks involved with waiting when you get to mid-late thirties- the main one being that you won't conceive at all. I suppose you need to consider how you will feel if you don't have an(other) child - if it's something you can live with then waiting might be the sensible option.

I had MMC last year and it’s really not nice going through it all on your own (scans, op etc.) but I’m TTC again now so I clearly think the benefits outweigh the negatives!

I’m scared to try again in case it happens again but at the same time i really want another so I need to get back on the horse (won’t tell my husband I called him that.. 😂)

I say just think positive, and although it does happen, don’t think that it will happen to you! Prepare for the worst, hope for the best xx

Thank you ladies I will certainly just try to keep positive

I would not be too worried if it did not happen so would be content to wait but it is my husband who is the broody as heck one desperate to give my son a sibling so I just feel quite pressured.