No judging two potential fathers

[Billybob947]

So basically I have been with my long term partner for over 4 years now. We split up for four months and I had a one night Stand with someone on the 24th July 2020 / he didn’t cum in me. Then had sex with my long term partner on the 30th, 1st,
2nd august. All unprotected so I kept testing cos panicking and didn’t manage to get a very faint positive until 16th august. I managed to finally get a clear positive on 20th august. My last period was 19th July 2020. My due date is 27th April. Can anyone help me with this?? I’m really panicking now I genuinely didn’t have any doubts until now. Can someone help me?

Ovulation is usually 10-14 days after your period ends, so balance of probability is that it won't be the ONS as he didn't finish and you're unlikely to have ovulated. But only you know your cycle. Good luck.

Look no one on here is going to be able to help you sorry. Those dates are very close together. Your due date is calculated from the 1st day of you last period so it's not 100% accurate. There's no way to pin point an exact conception date unless you only have sex once on one particular day. Im not even sure that would pin point a date as sperm can last nearly up to a week I think. The only way you'll be 100% sure is by getting a dna test.
I take it you haven't told your partner? Would he be understanding? You've left it quite late, the best time to tell him probably would of been at the start of the pregnancy when you found out.

Honesty is the best policy. Have you spoken with your DP so they know you had a ONS? Otherwise This far along, he’ll be thinking he’s the father, only him.

When can you do a dna test? Thinking from birth.

Are you in touch with the ONS?

Years ago, a lady I know had similar. Eventually told both guys and upon birth, had DNA test which revealed father was not her DH. Her DH wanted to raise DC with her regardless, but she left him as reasons for their brief break up were still unresolved. Her ONS didn’t want to know but did pay court order support.

No one here will be able to give you a definite answer. You will need to have a dna test done.

Much more likely to be your partner than the one night stand. I know people get very late BFPs but generally you get them about 12DPO so I would say on that alone it's likely to be your partner xx

It’s highly unlikely to be your ONSs judging from this and your EDD

Were you trying to get pregnant op?

No judgement at all, I would say based on the science it's unlikely to be your ONS' child. If it's the only way to calm your nerves, how do you think your DH would react if you told him that you wanted a test?

I’m going to have to be honest. I honestly didn’t even have any doubts till reading something similar on here. Just didn’t think it would of been possible as calculating it took me 24 days after the one night stand to even get a very faint positive and 27 days after that to get my big fat positive. I feel so shitty now I’m distraught

what's done is done. An STD check would be good though (I think they can be done with postal samples). Does your partner know you put him at risk?

as for the parentage, DNA after birth.

no judgement, just facts.

It is very very unlikely to be ONS based on your dates. And I assume your scan matched ?

But of course the worry will never leave you until you know for sure.

I think the best thing is to do a dna test as soon as the baby is born

I’ve already been tested for any STD’s and haven’t any at all which is good. I’m heartbroken, I genuinely never even thought until reading someone else’s post this morning.

OP don’t panic. The chances it’s your ONS’s are tiny- practically non-existent I would say. First of all he didn’t cum in you. Second of all, your due date (I presume based on a scan) suggests you ovulated on the 4th August, which also fits with when you got your BFP and the dates you had unprotected sex with your partner. I would forget all about this and enjoy your pregnancy. Congratulations 🥰🥰🥰

Exactly what @bizawit said. Don't torture yourself. It's almost certainly your partner's baby. X

I don’t think you have anything to worry about. To be the ONS baby, you would have had to ovulate between 24th-29th July (approximately) which would then mean that you didn’t get a positive test until between 18-23DPO.
The dates you had sex with you DP would fall right around when you would expect to ovulate based on your last period. It also means your positive test would have been around 12-14DPO which is much more likely.
If you don’t think you can put t behind you then I would suggest speaking to your DP about it. You need to be able to enjoy your family life so do whatever you feel will allow you to have that.

It’s way more likely to be your partner than the ONS. The only way to be absolutely certain is a DNA test, but based on your dates it’s so much more likely to be your partner’s. The ONS dates don’t match up unless something odd has happened with your cycle.

Am I the only person to think just tell the truth? What's done is done but honesty is the best policy, and then you know where everyone stands

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