TTC: When does it feel 'right'?

[dancingbringsjoy]

I'm 29 and have been with my fiancé for 3 years but no wedding plans because of COVID. We own a house together, we're both happy and secure in our careers (as far as anyone can be) and we have a great relationship. Over the last year or so I've started to feel a bit nervous about TTC; my DB and SIL have had difficulties TTC and I'm worried that if we wait for the 'right' moment we might jeopardise our chances of starting our family. In your experience, was it better to wait until your 30s and the right moment? Or would you recommend trying and not worrying about waiting for the perfect time? When did you know it was the time to start trying?

I think the fact you're asking this might mean it's the right time for you.

I remember googling things like 'how do I know it's the right time for a baby' because I was worried it wasn't the right time lol!

It totally was and it's the best thing I ever did.

I'd speak with your oh

I always say you’ll never regret it, but you might regret not doing.. if that makes sense?! Even with the worst timing ever (myself included - mum says I was a ‘happy accident haha!), I don’t know of anyone that regrets having a baby but I know a few who regret leaving it late.

Go with the flow but as pp said, the fact you’re think about it points to you being ready :) x

@dancingbringsjoy I don’t think there’s ever a perfect time tbh. There’s always ‘something’ that needs to be sorted first. If we all waited for things to be perfect, it would be too late.
We picked probably the worst time of our lives to ttc our first. Literally together a few months and Hubby was still married to his ex 😬 10 years on we’re in almost a perfect position but not quite but have decided to ttc our second. I’m 39 so had we waited for things to be almost perfect, We’d only just be trying for our first.

I'm 28 and newly TTC, still a bit nervous about it!
My friend once said when she had her first after being with her partner for 10 years "if they'd waited until they fully felt ready, they would never have been ready" and that stuck me.

stuck with me**

This is funny because I had my DD at 20 sooo young! Wouldn't change her and after her I always waited and waited sometime came up i got married at 24. I'm 29 nearly 30 now and still wasn't going to but I realised its been 10 years!! What if I wait another 10 by putting it off? Potentially being a mum again at 40 and having a 20yo DD possibly being a nana and still having a young child myself 🤣.. not happening lol so i decided its now or never. Sometimes you just gotta go for it. Good luck x