My best friends just found out the gender...

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Really just here to write this Down and wrap my head around my feelings today. My best friends are having a baby, it's amazing and I'm so happy for them!

Today they found out that they're expecting a girl. I'm crying my eyes out and I don't know if it's because I'm happy, sad or both. We've been TTC for 2 years, I have my first fertility clinic appointment in 2 months time and it's all just so uncertain and scary. I'd love nothing more than to be announcing the gender of my baby right now.

I probably sound awful, just having one of those days. I am genuinely happy for my friends, it's just hard to see someone going through exactly what you want while you're struggling.

When I was younger I thought if you were happy then you were happy, or if you were sad then just sad. As adults situations are complicated enough that we can feel sad and happy at the same time (not necessarily in equal measure).

My best friend in the whole world had her baby last year and I was happy for her but after we got off FaceTime I cried my eyes out. TTC is tough, you’ve been doing it for 2 years and it’s crippled you by that point. Don’t beat yourself up for being upset, if the shoe was on the other foot she would feel the same. And people having babies is EVERYWHERE atm, it’s a tough time.

I’m sorry and wishing you baby dust ❤️

You don't sound awful at all. You are allowed to feel happy for them whilst simultaneously feeling so sad for yourselves. Please be kind to yourselves. Seek comfort in the knowledge that statistically you will have your longed for baby x

Poor you. You sound like a really amazing friend and your reaction is totally normal I would say - I would be the same but probably less gracious. It will happen for you and when it does it will be amazing. Sending you lots of love x

And because I can't edit my post It took almost 18m to conceive my son and two miscarriages to have our second child. Most people get there, keep the faith x

Oh I'm sorry OP I totally know how you feel. I had been trying with my DH for 3 years and my friend wasn't ready. Then she suddenly was and a few months later she came around to my house with a scan showing identical twins. I hadn't known she was pregnant so it was a massive shock. I said and did all the right things because she was (quite rightly) so pleased and happy. But when she left I lay in the bath and cried. I started IVF a few weeks after her girls were born and visiting them all in hospital was the hardest thing. Twelve months later she was visiting me and the first of my children ( all IVF). Good luck OP, I totally sympathise

Thank you everyone. Bloody emotions, they don't help do they! I haven't confided in many that we've been TTC for so long so it's nice to be able to get it all out on here, my DH badly wants a baby too but I honestly feel like I can't pick up my phone without someone else announcing a pregnancy lately!