I can’t have anymore bloody sex!!!

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How do you all do it?

We’re a once a week couple as unfortunately my sex drive isn’t that high. Since TTC we’ve been DTD a lot more obviously.

I’ve been using OPK’s and the CB fertility monitor. I had 4 days of ‘high’ fertility on both, we had sex 3 of those days (which were in a row) and yesterday I got my peak. So we DTD last night but it was the 4th day in a row and tbh we were both just so over it. I really couldn’t get turned on (sorry TMI I know ) as I was just knackered and had 0 enthusiasm for it.

This morning I’ve still got my peak OPK on my cheapie and my app is telling me to DTD again tonight and tomorrow. DH and I agreed last night that we wouldn’t DTD again until Tuesday as we just need a day off. Now I’m anxious as I fully expected to just have a ‘high’ or ‘low’ reading this morning and knowing I’m still at peak and there’s still pressure to DTD again tonight/ tomorrow etc.

I know this is a personal Q but is everyone’s ‘baby dancing’ always a passionate, long drawn out affair or do people sometimes just literally DTD just to get some sperm

Nope not passionate. And I think your fine since sperm can survive up to five days. When I conceived our boy, I think we had sex two days before I ovulated. It's better to have the sperm waiting there for ovulation to happen rather than ovulating then hoping a sperm will make its way up.

Good luck!

Sperm lives for a few days inside you so you don't need to do it every day if you don't want to. If anything, doing it too often isn't recommended. We went for every two or three days and it worked for us.

Ours was not passionate at all when TTC, after a few months of scheduled sex it's not exactly romantic anymore so it was a quickie in the kitchen 3 or 4 days in a row each month until we got a BFP

Most def not passionate, me and my husband laugh about and say 'right let's just get this done' 😂. I'm with you on the sex drive, we are once a week and we both said yesterday that we are a bit sexed out, we already have a 2 year old so finding the energy to do it most night is bloody hard! X

Passion does fly out of the window a little when ttc. We were still in the ‘honeymoon’ phase of our relationship when we co cover our daughter so it was ok. This time though, been together 10 years and have an almost 9yr old and a full on life so half the time it’s just a case of get the job done and legs in the air 😬

Sperm lives for ages inside the body for ages though so you can have a night or two off and should still be covered.

It's honestly the least romantic or passionate sex I've ever had, especially second time round with a toddler when we're doing it at 6am before I have to go to work and both of us would much rather be asleep! You just have to have a laugh about it. It sounds like you're probably covered for the next couple of days though so just have a rest and take the pressure off. If you ovulate today then you're sorted from yesterday, and if it's tomorrow then you can give it another go then, maybe in the morning?

My last baby was a 2 minute quickie, from behind, over the loo with me holding on to the cistern. We call him Baby Ensuite. Haha!

The least sexy sex ever.

Yeah as others have said, last night will cover you. I've conceived a few times and one of those was from sex 4 days before ovulation day.

Same we have always been a Sunday sex couple lol Dh always feels a bit taken advantage of when we are ttc. I was always like just need 5 mins of ur time 🤦‍♀️ get in do what u need job done lol

Phew, glad we’re not the only ones definitely having the night off tonight, will go again tomorrow night and then that will have to be it until the weekend

Nope not romantic at all i try doggy for optimal shooting (sorry TMI) I will treat him to ontop sex 🤣 its a myth that you can't get pregnant sex is sex.. but last couple of nights he's declined me think he's feeling used. Who knew men would ever complain eh?? 🤣🤣🤣

Very relatable. Really not passionate, it’s not much fun tbh and we’re both very much over it. Planning to up the frequency from the next cycle so we’re going to need to try to up the enthusiasm too (and maybe the location so it’s less repetitive )

@Greyclock I’ve just spat my coffee out reading that 😂

We’ve decided that the week of ovulation, or baby week as I keep calling it , will be a week of just getting the job done lol

@Greyclock 😂😂😂 excellent

@SweetShopSurprise there is nothing more unsexy than baby making sex