ITS JUST NOT HAPPENING!! TTC first baby

[Dede23]

Does anyone else feel like you’re just constantly trying and it doesn’t happen!? My cycles are never regular so I don’t know when I ovulate..I have sex every other day and it just doesn’t happen. Been trying for 9 months and nothing.
Starting to get me down and I feel like it’s never going to happen for me

@Dede23 if you aren't tracking ovulation are you just DTD several times a week? Or are you basing when to DTD on an average day 14 ovulation?

I'm asking because often the reason women don't get pregnant is due to having sex at the wrong time. Hopefully this holds true for you. If not then it's still early days, give it another couple of months and then speak to the gp.

AF arrived today, a week too early. I’m gutted... again.

Hi everyone!

I'm getting fed up too, had my first ever squinter on a cheapie test at 11dpo this morning but now I've got cramps and spotting and AF is usually around this time.

It really does seem like it's happening for everyone else, and whilst I know that's not true its always reassuring to know you're feelings are valid!

@Madeoftea ahh sorry you feel like that too. You’re not alone, I find it hard when I see yet another Instagram announcement!

@GrapefruitGin seeing announcements is so hard isn't it. I always feel like it's so easy for other people but I'm aware that people don't share their stories and how long it takes them to get there.

Sorry your AF arrived early. At least its the start of a new cycle!

Yes same been trying coming up to 18 months and not even a hint of a line.

We are gonna give it another 6 months then pursue IVF. Paid privately for fertility checks and all came back OK so have no idea what the issue is.

Funnily enough I'm starting to feel more positive about it this year- although pregnancy announcements are always a kick in the nuts.

@Madeoftea you’re absolutely right, can’t assume everyone gets lucky first time round. Yes new cycle, new mindset... had a proper wobble earlier but I’m always very emotional during this time of the month! I’m trying to plan out a better DTD schedule for this month without it feeling like a chore.

@truetuesdays so pleased you’re feeling positive and I think it’s great you have a plan set in place although I really hope you get your BFP sooner than that

@GrapefruitGin thank you!! Me too haha

Only just started using the clear blue ovulation tests so think we ought to at least try with them for a bit before jumping into treatments. I do still hold out hope and positivity for conceiving naturally but we will see

@grapefruitgin so sorry AF arrived. 😔 I also struggle with announcements . Had someone very close to me announce recently and it hit me hard. Then I felt so guilty for feeling like that as I genuinely am happy for them .

I am 9dpo and nothing to report. Any symptoms can also be AF which is due on Friday . Will probably test if I am late . I don't really like testing early x

How’s everyone doing? Any good/bad/interesting news?!

Hi @GrapefruitGin how are you doing??

I got my bfp on Friday! Had a bit of a mare with spotting and cramps and I've had to have tests at the EPU but fingers crossed and I'm cautiously optimistic!

I would get the clear blue ovulation tests that give u smiley faces so u no when ur ovulating and don't have sex to frequently so the sperm has time to build back up (sorry for the details) xx

@Madeoftea omg congratulations! Sending lots of positivity your way and hope everything is ok.

@madeoftea Congratulations ❤ I hope you are keeping well.

I have just done a frer this morning and it is positive ❤ I am in a bit of a dream world at the minute . Just hoping it is a sticky bean xx

Hi OP

Just to give a bit of hope. About to hit 20 weeks pregnant after 2 years trying. One MMC in that time at 12 weeks. The only thing that worked was having sex about 25 times in the 3 weeks I possibly could have been fertile and ignoring the ovulation sticks.

Best of luck.