TTC after 10 years on the pill

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I have decided I want to TTC this year as I am 30 in October and always said I wouldn't want kids after 30. (This doesn't mean its wrong to want to do it after 30)
I have been on the pill for 9/10 years. I already have a 9 year old almost 10. So I'm trying to take a relaxed approach but also worrying that the length of time I have been on the pill will affect me plus my age. Anyone im same position or how long did it take for you to conceive?

I had been on the pill for 12 years when I had my DS. Got pregnant on my second cycle. Everyone's different, try not to let it worry you.

@dearmaria
Oh really? That's quick! I hope it takes that quickly for me. I have no idea what my cycles are yet. As I stopped my pill had a bleed on 22nd - 27th Dec. So theoretically my period should come 19th Jan (28 days) but who knows my pill may have screwed things up.

I did this in November - just over 10 years on the pill, I turned 30 last summer. I’ve been told that it can take 6 months to a year to reset, but it is also possible to get pregnant much earlier, so it’s a bit of a wait and see...

My first cycle was oddly painful, I guess because the first “bleed” when you stop is a withdrawal bleed rather than a real one, and the next one seemed a bit brutal! This one has been absolutely fine, I’m a week into the TWW. We’re trying to be relaxed about it happening but I’ve been doing OPKs; and ovulation seemed normal this month... i didn’t really peak the month before, it went high but not as high as normal.

I was also reminded that there’s only around a 19% chance of conceiving in any particular cycle anyway; so if it takes a while; it’s not necessarily because of the pill... that’s helped set my expectations, I think.

I suppose its all a matter of luck i know people who got pregnant weeks after stopping the pill/ depo. And heard you can be quite fertile after stopping the pill initially because of the hormones changing. I just hope it takes this year as I did give myself the deadline of 30 which is 9 months away. And if it doesn't happen its not meant to be. I suppose previous conception timing doesn't indicate that it'll be the same the 2nd time either.

Yeah, I was secretly hoping to be one of those W people who gets pregnant in the first two weeks after coming off the pill; apparently you’re super fertile then!

Best of luck to you, I hope it happens easily

@SendMeHome aww thank you i hope it does for you too. I'm trying not to become obsessed but its so hard. I really don't want to be buying ovulation kits pregnancy dip tests and stress over it and I know for a fact my husband wouldn't like it aswell 🙈 ive got 2 clear blue digital tests in so when its time I'm ready but for now they are in a drawer away and will only use if im late no matter how tempting it is to keep checking 🤣

I was on the pill for about 12 years, took 5 months to conceive (was ectopic though), had a 3 month break then took another 5 months to conceive this one (9 weeks currently). I’m also 30 this year ☺️ Best of luck!

@MrsB2019x aww congratulations 👏 I hope it all goes smoothly is this baby no 1?? I think im mad for waiting so long but I think itll be easier as I won't have 2 young kids my daughter would be 10 (if it happens this year) so she sorts herself out. Its all changed so much since i was last pregnant havent ever tried since then

10 years on the pill, took 7 months with dd 1. Back on the pill for another 3 years, took only two months with dd 2.

Oh and I was age 27 and 30.

@LouLou198 ohh that's quick both times really I'm not sure if being on the pill 10 years or 1 year makes a difference its the regulation after i am concerned about especially pushing 30 now. I now its still young but egg speaking it is a lot lower odds than when I was 20 plus DH is 32 now aswell so his swimmers may have slowed down a bit 🙈

I wouldn't worry too much, majority of my friends have have all been busy working on their careers in their 20's and successfully had their first child in their 30's. It seems quite the norm now. I think pregnancy itself is more tiring though the older you get, I noticed the second in my 30's was more tiring than the one a few years earlier. Good luck!!

I was on the pill for 12 years and it took me 35 days to get a true af. I conceived after 8 months. The pregnancy ended in a mmc and I conceived again 8 months later.

Good luck!

Also, please, please do not put so much pressure on yourself to fall pregnant by your birthday!! It will hopefully happen sooner but maybe not. The stress factor does not help with conception.

I had a conversation with my best friend just before I started ttc and she told me that it took her two years to fall pregnant with her first child and there was absolutely nothing wrong with her or her husband! I said, "Well I can't wait that long."

It took me 26 months to get from first month ttc to the birth of my dd.

@Chanel05 sorry to hear about your 1st pregnancy but happy to hear you ended up with a daughter. I know im trying not to use my birthday as a target although I would be happy if it happened before then. I'm just hoping I'm a lucky one and it happens soon. As me and my husband did compromise that if didn't happen by the time I'm 30 we would just leave it. As he didn't want anymore children I have never been bothered by it before but the last year I have really wanted one more. And what do you do when one says yes one says no. So that is the reasoning behind the date