21st Cycle and So Tired

[JNG18]

DH and I have been trying for 20 cycles when AF showed up last week.

I’ve been undergoing investigations for Endometriosis and am awaiting a laparoscopy to confirm. He’s getting his checks done.

I gave in and bought OPKs to try this month. I didn’t want to “invest” more into this because it would be more deflating if it doesn’t work. I know we haven’t had all the medical checks or tried any interventions yet, but has anyone felt worn out with just normal trying?

I’m weirdly afraid the lap and dye will give me new hope that something will work, because hoping so far has been fruitless and disappointing to say the least.

I’m not sure what I’m looking for, I guess just knowing I’m not alone would help.

Hello. Just wondering - do you know when/if you're ovulating? Unless you BD all throughout your cycle it seems peculiar to me to be on cycle 20 and not having double checked if you're having intercourse at the right time of the cycle.

Being nearly 2 years in it's completely understandable that you're tired of it all - I'm hoping getting all your checks done will show something easy to fix to make sure you get your BFP soon!

I’ve been using an app to “track” my fertile week, monitoring CM, and used to check my cervix but never got the hang of it.

I’ve had a day 21 test that confirms that I ovulate (at least that month it did!). My periods are very regular, about 27 day cycles.

What’s harder is that things like SMEP are way out of our league in terms of frequency. Neither of us would be able to keep up with anything close to that. We dtd about 2x per week (trying for 3x in the fertile week).

@JNG18 I hear you, my OH would gladly stick to once a week. However that's why I use OPKs /bbt to make sure that when I manage to drag him into bed it's as well timed as possible lol. Worth a shot if it hasn't worked so far for you - what kind of OPKs did you go for?

I’m using easy@home/ Premom from amazon, they come with an app that monitors the line progression. Let’s see if it helps.

Hi, I don't ovulate at the typical time. I ovulate immediately over my period has ended. All apps say 2 weeks. Definitely check this out for yourself x

It could be a problem with his sperm. Hope you get fixable answers soon. Sometimes it just takes a lot longer than average.

@Lisakathryn did you find this out through using OPKs?

@joystir59 we’re also looking at this but covid has slowed down a lot of the testing we would have had last year.

I’ve been trying for more than 2 years @JNG18 so completely hear you on the being tired of it all.

The apps rarely predict ovulation correctly so if you have only been using those you may have been mistiming.

I use the easy@home sticks with the premom app too and it’s definitely helped as I was rubbish as reading OPK’s. The minute I got a dark line I’d go into panic mode that I needed to try that second and half the time it wasn’t even positive yet! 🤦🏻‍♀️

@Lisakathryn that’s really interesting that you ovulate early, do you get any ovulation symptoms at the same time or at a different time?

@JNG18 frequency issue is very relatable. We stopped using contraception in October 2019 ish and have been trying just around the time I think I ovulate. Now we’re being referred to the infertility clinic in the coming months so we’re going to have to step it up a notch and try every 2-3 days and I’m knackered just thinking about it.

@JNG18 nope, I found it out through getting pregnant!

@Waiting2BAMummy I can understand the panic, I’d be lost about reading them without all the help the app gives.

@Lisakathryn that’s insane! I wondered if something similar might be the case with me, thus trying the OPKs.

@thislittlebird why do you have to try more frequently after being referred to the fertility clinic? I’m not sure how some of these things go- is it for a specific treatment?

@JNG18 Nothing specific, my understanding is they quiz you on what you've been doing amongst other questions and I believe the NHS advice is to try every 2-3 days so I'm just anticipating that's what they'll tell us to do if we tell them we've mostly been trying a certain time of the month so thought we should probably just crack on with that.

@JNG18 try them. I doubt I would have ever got pregnant if I'd followed an app, now that I know this. I got pregnant the day after my period ended.

I also ovulate at odd times in my cycle. It used to be really late but now it's really early (sometimes when I'm still bleeding). I got pregnant when I started using OPKs, we had been focussing our efforts at completely the wrong times before that!

thanks ladies, fingers crossed this does something.