So unfair!!!

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Anyone else seeing pregnancy announcements EVERYWHERE and wondering how on earth people are managing to conceive so easily? I know everyone has their own journeys but when you just see their scan pic and a nice post to go with it you just assume it's so easy for everyone else but you. I almost wish it was the norm to post how long you've been TTC with your announcement 😂 very random post but just can't cope sometimes with how everyone's pregnant but me (so it seems).

Rant below if you need it 😂😂😂
Baby dust to everyone xx

I was literally just about to post a thread like this. A close friend announced yesterday, after coming off contraceptive several cycles ago. I've been off contraceptive coming up to 2 years. Not going to lie, I've been on the edge of tears all day

I was saying this to my DH this afternoon after seeing yet another pregnancy annoucement! Three friends are currently pregnant and I keep seeing celebrities announcing pregnancies everywhere! We haven't actually started TTC yet due to work commitments and are starting soon but it just feels so unfair that we have to wait and I just want it to happen now!

Hey girls I totally agree. I feel like as soon as we started TTC there’s baby announcements everywhere!

I’ve just started cycle 4 after coming off the pill end of September. One of my best friends got her implant removed December and fell pregnant that month. I know it sounds awful, but I couldn’t help but be upset!

Cant agree more!!!
Not been ttc for long but we has a miscarriage in early november and i swear ever since it just seems to be baby announcements or new borns everywhere.

I have every faith that we will finally get to have our own baby announcement this year!

Babydust all around! Xox

Yeah, literally whenever I open Facebook it’s another baby post yay lol. And yeah, we don’t know everyone’s journeys but I know my friend conceived straight away and then another one announced she was pregnant too and it all got a bit much.

Kinda crazy they’ll be having their babies by the spring.

It isn't really fair is it? I always try to think you don't know what goes on behind close doors... Unless like with my friend recently who told me very bluntly how easy they'd managed it as they'd wanted to time it six months away from their first born's birthday 😆
I saw a very lovely pregnancy announcement a little while ago on Facebook from someone who really struggled, had several losses and fertility treatment and was announcing that they "finally got there in the end". She put so much love and detail into her post about how she knew how painful it was for people trying to see and she wanted them to know they weren't alone, it was really sweet and uplifting 😊. It would be nicer to see a few more like that but I'm sure not everyone wants the world to know these things!

Completely feel like this too guys!!! If I see another announcement I might scream! I keep seeing it all over Instagram so I’ve now limited myself going onto Instagram because this past month it’s just been way too much!!
I just wish I had a pregnancy to celebrate!! This is a stressful journey and doesn’t help seeing everyone else pregnant so easily! Fingers crossed for all of us!

I agree guys. I mean I am happy for every announcement I see, which I'm glad about. I don't want to be bitter, but I do shed a tear or two when I see them because i just want to feel that so bad. I follow a woman and her partner on Instagram and she announced over the weekend that it took them once cycle to conceive (also posting multiple pics of her 5 positive tests) and it just blows my mind... we are coming up to 11 months now of TTC 😔

Ahhh well. Not much we can do apart from wait. At least every day is a day closer I suppose 💛

Also thank you for replying I don't feel as alone now I've read all of your messages saying you feel the same! X

There does seem to be a baby boom at the moment, and it's so hard to see if you're TTC! So I get what you mean :)

But you also need to remember that almost everyone who announces a pregnancy on social media will leave out the part about how long it took them to conceive. I think more people than you realise will have had some kind of struggle in conceiving, as sadly people don't tell anyone about this so you'd never know... All you see is the cute announcement on social media when behind all that there might be years of TTC, losses, IVF etc etc.

Not sure if that's reassuring or not lol!

Took me 7 month with my first, tracking ovulation, for and healthy 22 year old.

I know 7 months isn’t long but society and see education years ago had me under the impression that if a penis so much as breaths near your vagina without a console you will definitely get pregnant.

Not the case. So 7 months felt like a lifetime to me but in actual fact wasn’t. - I still envy the women who ‘only tried once’ or ‘caught it on the first go’

Bugger off

These people that try once and it happens I don’t understand!!! Why is that not me LOL. And @PriceEmUp literally for my entire life it’s like that bit of c/um gets inside you - that’s it you’re pregnant!! I’ve got so much inside me these days and I’m just sitting here like why aren’t I pregnant hahaha!! What a journey! Who knew!!!

I'm a year in with ttc and yes, scan pics are most days on my social media. I see one yesterday putting how tough they had found the ttc, turns out it took 3 months. I actually laughed. Some people have no idea. I'm happy for people but it makes me sad for myself. Positive for 2021 that I have a whole new year of hope. Sending love to you all x

I feel your pain op, but you're right you don't know what is happening behind closed doors.
To the outside world it looks like I had my first child and then 4 years later I had my second, the reality is that we started ttc when my eldest was 18 months. It took a year to fall pregnant and then we lost it, 3 more months to get pregnant again and we lost it and 3 months again and lost again. After that it took 2 months and that baby survived. This was all in under 4 years and I was only 25 years old. Additionally to that both my surviving children have battled for life from birth but are fine now.
Seeing all the happy, healthy pregnancy announcements hurts me deeply, im happy for my family and friends but why do they get to have it so easy.
All my children have either died or nearly died and I've nearly died during pregnancy twice. Its left me deeply traumatised but to the outside world we are a happy family of 4 when really there are 7 of us

My circle of friends don’t seem to do the scan thing now (which is a blessing really) but it’s more like everyone keeps quiet and then bam! pic with them of a baby in hospital! I guess I prefer it that way, and I only use Instagram to look at photos and videos of cute animals which I’m glad about from reading this thread. Barely go on Facebook but after a week of four baby birth and conception announcements recently I decided just to steer clear for the foreseeable.

It’s difficult to explain the feeling of not being upset they’re pregnant as such, but more that you can’t join them. My two friends being pregnant now and me not being hit me harder than I ever expected tbh.

@Lovely27 there is definitely a baby boom, now how do we all get in on it?!

I'm with you ladies 😞 every announcement breaks me a little bit more. I should have been 24 weeks this week. But I'm not. I'm a tube down (ectopic) and feeling further and further away from ever having a baby 😭 I know chances are I still won't have a baby bu this time next year. I hope to at least be pregnant by then...

I know just how you feel. It took me 2.5 years to get pregnant with my first.

How those announcements made me feel was one of the top reasons I didn't announce either of my pregnancies. I didn't want someone else to feel like that.

It's really hard. Give yourself a day to feel those emotions and then try to move on.

Yeppp. One of my best friends is due her baby next month. They started trying in April 🙃 and here DH and I are very nearly 12 months in and nada.
I mean, I’m happy for her, but it stings, for sure.

That sucks @DoctorBambino and I’m sorry you’ve had to go through that. I’ve had no such trouble so far, but no positives either....just a lot of AF. I feel for you guys who have had to go through that.

I thought I might have a baby by some time in 2021 but probably more like 2022 at this point. It’s a strange old experience and time flies by.

I'm sorry you are struggling op. It can't be easy but people don't mean to rub it in your face. They are just excited and shouldn't feel guilty about conceiving easily.

I feel your pain op, my friends little one has their first birthday this month.... she is due baby no.2 in May 😑 that was a hard pill to swallow. 15months ttc and not even a sniff of a second line ! Fed up is an understatement

@Ughmaybenot haha I feel you. One of my best friends started in April... except she accidentally got pregnant in March. So she had her baby in Nov and here I am on cycle 13. We were hoping for joint mat leave!

@TaraRhu

I'm sorry you are struggling op. It can't be easy but people don't mean to rub it in your face. They are just excited and shouldn't feel guilty about conceiving easily.

Hi. I never said they should feel guilty, nor did I say they were rubbing it in my face. This post is for those of us struggling and those of us who struggle to see announcements - I said I'm happy for them. :)