how do you handle pg friends??

[tryingnottoobsess]

Ok, learning to post, pls bear with me if in wrong place or whatever...

Close friend is pg and just had her 3month scan. She is going to annouce at mutual friends birthday dinner tonight.

I have been ttc for about 6months and mc in July (though started temping this cycle).

Currently 12 dpo and temp crashed this morning, so I assume AF is on way (though not here yet).

None of our friends know we're ttc, or about my mc. Just not sure if I can handle pg announcement/discussion with my AF on the way :0(

Can't even have a glass of wine, as have half convinced myself that it's a late implantation dip and I might still be pg! Think I'm going insane!

Sorry to vent, I would really welcome any feedback.....

Hi, I was so grateful yesterday that I thought I'd post an update in case anyone was interested!

Thanks to the invisible support from here, last night went fine.

I made sure I arrived late so I didn't have to sit thru the actual announcement, though typically that meant that the 1 seat left was next to Mrs Preggie! I had a glass of wine, and only wobbled once when the scan pics came out, but everyone was gushing too much to notice.

Interestingly DH wouldn't look at the pics (got away with it by playing the squeamish bloke card) He told me later that because he was at the 'business end' of our m/c scan he couldn't face looking at their pics. (it was 8 weeks, and I couldn't see the screen, so I never saw anything upsetting). Bless.

Oh, and AF has not appeared, so my flicker of hope is turning to a glimmer. I read a lovely phrase from someone on here... "it's not over till the fat red bitch sings" ha ha!!!!

thanks to birdseed, loveangel and mrs tittlemouse for the posts last night too. The more of us there are, the less crazy i feel.

Hi TNTO

Thanks for the update.
It sounds like you handled the party admirably!
Well done you!!
I'm sure that with your positive attitude you'll be absolutely fine and will be showing off your own scan pics in no time.

Hi tryingnottoobsess Just wanted to pop in and say well done you! Sounds like you handled things really well. Remember if you ever need a moan or people to chat to, MumsNet is always here. Hope your AF doesn't come back to visit for many months but if she does rear her ugly head have a large glass of wine on me you deserve it!

glad the party was at least managable and good luck.

So did I mrs Tmouse (DS 10th IVF attempt, trying for DC2 4th attempt new year), brave face and then go home sobbing and then not wanting to see them until I felt up to it. It was worse when people realised we were having problems conceiving as they were embarrassed to tell me to my face for fear of upsetting me or trying to hide their babies from me as if I wanted their child. Just do whatever makes life easier for you, I think the whole not getting pregnant thing is probably the worst thing I have had to deal with and unless your friends are in the same boat they have no idea.

Completely agree soosy. We had always kept up the attitude that we weren't keen on having children (we're not the kind of people who used to gush over other people's so it wasn't too difficult for people to believe). That way at least it kept the questions at bay. I don't think I could have coped if anyone had guessed, I'm impressed that you did so well. Even now, almost no-one knows. In fact, a family member phoned my Mum when we went public and discretely asked if we were OK with the "surprise"! One of the hardest things about keeping it quiet now is that I can't commiserate with other people going through the same thing in real life. I wouldn't want to do that until we know we're done having a family though.
Good luck with TTC DB2.