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Covid vaccine and TTC

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DNAshelicase · 27/12/2020 11:04

Hi everyone,

I was just hoping to hear your views on TTC and the covid vaccine. Gov guidelines say that you should not have it if you are TTC, on one hand I feel selfish saying no to it as I’m a teacher and have a lot of exposure/don’t want to infect other people, but on the other hand I’ve had two mc this year and so desperately want to have a baby. What are your plans regarding TTC and the vaccine?

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Louise241989 · 27/12/2020 11:37

I'm hoping that by the time they get down to vaccinating people with no other health conditions in their 30s there's a lot more research around it in ttc/pregnancy and I can make a more informed choice.
I work in social care with children though, not sure what that means for when me or colleagues might be offered it. No one knows we're ttc atm (it's been a year but I've hardly seen my mum to tell her!) No doubt the cat will be out the bag if I have to decline it.

CycleGirl20 · 27/12/2020 11:45

I was thinking about this too. I reckon I'd just lie and say I wasn't TTC if I was offered it and still TTC. If I was pregnant I'd follow the doctor's advice. By the time most people our age get it, I reckon most people will be vaccinated. I worry at that point we'll be expected to resume normal life and go into work etc. I think if everyone else has had it and I don't take it, I'll either have to tell everyone I'm TTC to get out of being told to come in to work or risk catching covid whilst TTC and go in anyway.

It could also happen that I can't have it because I'm TTC, then hopefully pregnant, then breastfeeding, then TTC our second. It might be 4 or 5 years before I'm able to have it if I don't just take it anyway. How would I manage normal life then? "Sorry, I can't come to your party/work/my weekly meet up group/go on holiday/see family because I've not had the vaccine". I don't see that working.

I'm not a doctor so won't be offended if anyone corrects any of my assumptions.

Horehound · 27/12/2020 11:47

I'm TTC and will not take the vaccine even though I want to have it.

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DNAshelicase · 27/12/2020 12:18

Yeah I’m hopeful that by the time it gets to my age group there will be a lot more info, however there’s a lot of noise atm about whether some professions maybe fast tracked, possibly including teachers, so it may come sooner than I’d originally thought. If that were to happen I guess I’d just fess up and decline it.

I was talking to my mum about it and she seemed quite arsey about it, she thinks the likelihood of vaccine complications is likely to me minimal. But to me, the likelihood of me being really ill from cv19 is also minimal and TTC is really important to me and is my priority.

I think it’s easy to say ‘oh just wait until this is all over to TTC’ but it’s been a year for us already including 2 losses and you really can’t appreciate how much this means to a person until you struggle with fertility yourself.

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AliceinBunniland · 27/12/2020 12:21

Can you not just have it and then start TTC after the jab?

If you need to wait for it and are pregnant by the time you have the jab then you wouldn't have it

FestiveStuffing · 27/12/2020 12:24

If they say don't risk it, don't risk it. The scientists advising the government probably know a little more about it and its risks than you and your mother do.

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DNAshelicase · 27/12/2020 12:27

That’s a really good point, thanks @FestiveStuffing

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dramallama7 · 27/12/2020 12:29

I'm also in the same boat, ttc and likely to be offered vaccine very soon (beginning of jan apparently) as I work for the NHS although not front line and don't have any contact with patients. I am not planning on having it yet because of this but don't want to tell colleagues as it's none of there business and they will all ask. Dreading it.

gypsywater · 27/12/2020 12:32

I'm NHS front line and TTC so I'm not having the vaccine. Have also had a pregnancy loss earlier this year and have been TTC for ages so not prepared to delay further. No chance. I will just say I'm not having the vaccine due to personal medical reasons and that's that.

Louise241989 · 27/12/2020 12:33

@FestiveStuffing

If they say don't risk it, don't risk it. The scientists advising the government probably know a little more about it and its risks than you and your mother do.
Yes, I agree. I think they just need more time to gather more research as it's all so new. They already know a lot more about Covid and pregnancy than they did in March/April as there's much more data. Royal college of obstetricians and gynaecologists publish guidance all the time, a pretty trusted source. When the time comes I will read up and follow their advice as much as possible and pray for pregnancy in the mean time.
ekidmxcl · 27/12/2020 12:34

If you are happy teaching without having had the vaccine, then crack on TTC. You do not need to feel any obligation to get vaccinated just because you are a teacher. The govt has required teachers to teach all through the autumn term with sod all protection. They felt no obligation to protect teachers (I know 10+ teachers who caught covid at our school). We aren’t all in this together. It’s a huge lie. Do what you want.

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DNAshelicase · 27/12/2020 12:38

Yeah I’m hoping for more evidence over the coming weeks but don’t intend to have the vaccine. I know officially that they can’t force the vaccine on you but I wonder whether employers will be pissed off that women of child bearing age are not being vaccinated as it may impact attendance/going back to how things were before

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gypsywater · 27/12/2020 12:40

My work will definitely be pissed off but such is life. My manager already has children so she can be as pissed off at me as she likes, I care not a jot.

gypsywater · 27/12/2020 12:41

And I totally agree with PP about how noone has given a shit about teachers to date so do what you want OP. Put yourself first.

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DNAshelicase · 27/12/2020 12:43

@ekidmxcl I couldn’t agree more, I wouldn’t say I’m particularly ‘happy’ but we haven’t had much of a choice in how things have been running, have we?

Ultimately I’ll be doing what’s best for me but it’s annoying all the same. I don’t want my boss to infer that I’m TTC (I’ll be saying ‘medical reasons’ but it’s gonna be fairly obvious), it’s a really personal thing!

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HopeAndDriftWood · 27/12/2020 12:43

I’m not going to have it. Also won’t be offered it for a while as I’m in my early 30s, but I’ll trust the scientists on this one.

seven201 · 27/12/2020 12:44

I'm in a similar boat. I'm a teacher doing IVF (been ttc for 3 years and am getting old). I don't think I'll take it as you then have to wait 3 months to ttc again. But... I'm constantly stressed that I'm going to get covid symptoms at exactly the wrong time during ivf cycles, so it would take that stress away. I can't decide, but it's a problem for later anyway as I don't think we're being offered the vaccine any time soon!

alpinia · 27/12/2020 12:50

I'm hoping there will be more knowledge by the time I'm eligible for vaccination, as I've also suffered multiple mc.

But, I would also just say that long covid will also impact ttc plans if you are unlucky enough to be affected. I was completely healthy and got 5 months of awful long covid aged 30. There is no way I'd have been able to ttc during that time.

GwendolineMarysLaces · 27/12/2020 13:21

@FestiveStuffing

If they say don't risk it, don't risk it. The scientists advising the government probably know a little more about it and its risks than you and your mother do.
It's not known if there are any risks with TTC but it's thought to be unlikely

www.medicinesinpregnancy.org/Medicine--pregnancy/COVID-19-Vaccine/

cariaaad · 27/12/2020 13:29

I was offered it last week as front line NHS and declined as TTC and potentially doing 3rd round of IVF in the new year. I have had 3 losses in the last few years and although I know any potential risk is low, I can't risk it. Also getting old and don't have the time to put these plans on hold for the 'greater good'
Work know about IVF but really it's none of their business why people decline, TTC related or not.
You do your best to protect yourselves and your patients and carry on. I was expected to carry on working at the height of the 1st wave, working solely with COVID patients. My TTC was not taken into consideration then. It's very difficult, if I was pregnant I would be high risk working with COVID patients, and they don't have enough information about COVID effects on pregnancy. I think work only take you off front line in the 3rd trimester. But then there may risks in early pregnancy if you do have the vaccine. Not an easy choice.

Amijustagrump · 27/12/2020 14:48

I'm a teacher and DP is a paramedic, we have both decided to refuse it while TTC just in case. However we are both low risk and both been super cautious with distancing from our families and anyone vulnerable.

Wishingforarainbow7 · 28/12/2020 16:29

I am a nurse on an admissons unit and have been offered the vaccine already, I have refused as you are advised not to get it when ttc and I have recently had a miscarriage so not taking any chances. Even with the vaccine you can still spread covid, it just stops you getting ill. So im not putting others at risk by not getting it. Its personal choice though x

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