Scared to test dont know what to do

[Bumblebee57]

Bit of a random post and a vent....
Background me and oh have 1 dd and have been trying for a second for 8 years was told basically it can never happen we came to terms with it and just looked at the silver lining that we dont need contraception again (after many months of crying and upset sometimes you just need to accept whats meant to be!) We would obviously be over the moon if we got pg and its always at the back of my mind but we have dd and know how lucky we are anyway i am late not just late but late late.....like nearly 3 weeks i havent had any symptoms thats why im assuming my body is just skipping a month i have always had random periods and sometimes been a week or so but never this late but i just dont know what to do if i test and its neg i will be destroyed so its helping me have some hope but at the same time if i am it would be amazing i just feel so torn and not sure what to do!

Xxx

Also during what would have been my fertile time i had covid so altho we dtd before symptoms started during the actual time i was in isolation from oh and dd so i am thinking maybe there is no chance or maybe covid may have helped me in someway if i have conceived?

OP I think you need to test, you’re not on any contraception I’m guessing based on your OP so pregnancy could be a possibility. You won’t know unless you test

Whatever is going on, you need to know, so just take a test. Might peri -menopause be the culprit? My always on time periods started skipping months when I started with peri.

Thank you for your replies i have googled perimenopause im early 30s so dont think it could be that as i think statistically im too young i think i will bite the bullet and take the test just scared of dashing my hope esp as i have no symptoms at all with dd i had symptoms straight away.

Just thought I'd hop on to say one of my close friends has just told me she's pregnant and she conceived the month she fell ill with COVID! So it can happen :) Xx

Illness can delay ovulation though so it is possibly that covid delayed your ovulation so currently your not really late for af. Personally I'd do a test but expect it to be negative to stop you being disappointed otherwise you'll just drive yourself mad, take care xx

It must be awful to have gone through all of that Whether you test or not, you will eventually know the answer. But by not testing you are giving yourself a possibility that you could be, even though you are trying not to dare believe it. It is hope. Testing equals no hope. I think it's understandable.