When to try again after a miscarriage

[lillg]

Hi All. This is my first time posting but I'm hoping I can get some advice from people who have been through the same as me.
I had a miscarriage on Christmas eve. 20 weeks and 2 days. We've been trying on and off for 4 years and I've had 2 previous miscarriage, (but these were very early and not half as traumatic for me personally).
My DH thinks we should take some time for us before we try again. I agreed initially but have just said to him I don't want to regret waiting, especially if I'm more fertile at the moment.
Problem is I don't know if I have the mental strength to do it again right now. I felt ill from week 5 to week 19 this time with lots of worrying and stress. Would be good to hear other people's experiences from anyone willing to share.

I can't really answer your question but I didn't want to read and run. I just wanted to say I'm so so sorry for your loss, you must be going through hell right now.

Personally I think after such a trauma you probably need a bit of time to get your head straight, but only you know yourself. It does sound like you don't feel ready though. I have read that fertility is higher in the 6 months following MC, so you don't need to feel pressurised into making a decision in the next couple of months.

Take care

@camcw thank you. You're right It's consuming my every waking thought at the moment and I need to get back to some sort of normality and think about other things for a while before trying again. Hopefully that won't take me long.