40 and wanting to get pregnant 😧

[Bexek]

I have just turned 40, we had our first child when i was 35 ( so i was classed as an "older" mother back then!)

I'm fit and healthy and still fertile & really want to try for baby no 2.
I have an appointment to get my copper coil removed in Jan....i guess i'm looking for similar mums who have been in the same position as i feel like im going to be looked down on for (hopefully) getting pregnant at my age.

With my first baby i had all the risks thrown at me about possible downs baby, they said i was very high risk, id have to have a consultant led birth on labour ward etc etc
This scared me into going for private tests to find out if something was matter with baby so his would probably the case if i was to be as lucky to conceive again as i know i am at a higher risk now i'm even older.

ps- first baby was perfectly healthy and weighed 6lb 1 after they induced me because they said he was far too small at 5lb 4 & needed to come out as he'd stopped growing.

Sounds like they treated you badly

Mum had me at 38 and she often says it’s bad now how they treat mothers of...childbearing age.

In my work network, I think more had babies over 40 than under. I hope that helps.

I had my first one at 33, and my 2nd just shy of my 41st birthday. There are lots of older mums out there.

I've never been looked down on and have only been mistaken for grandma once [sigh]. No health issues with either baby.

I had my first at 34, second at 37 and currently expecting #3 - which is due just after my 40th (by about a week). As I will be over 40 (!) when this one is born this one is treated as a high risk pregnancy - but in fairness everyone has been very up front in that it's an age thing - they have to draw the lines somewhere, and if it gives extra support and monitoring then that can only be a good thing.

I had my dd when I was almost 40. I was ready, financial stable, and it qas probably harder to get up in the night. I am one of the older mums at the school gate but I don't stand out. There's plenty of others. Dd has mentioned wanting to have children in her 20s so that she is a young mum. But that's ok - she sees the younger mums as more glamorous. The only thing I'd say is that it becomes more of a responsibility to remain fit and healthy. I'll be in my 70s when she (hopefully) goes to uni. She'll still need us. Good luck. I'd do it. 40 isn't that old. I had the private scans. Had a scary result. They re did it a week later and the risk went down a lot. She's the best.