Anyone else nervous of being pregnant again? Age 37 TTC #2

[strawberryfields4eva]

I am 37 (38 next year) and looking to ttc #2 after Christmas. I have a son who is 7 and to be honest I think it has taken me all this time to come round to the idea. I had an anxiety ridden pregnancy (mild pre eclampsia and a lazy baby who did not move a lot so always in the hospital) and then a traumatic labour like so many have.
If someone knocked at the door now and gave me my baby or if I was a celeb and could have a surrogate I think I would.

I may even be in cloud cuckoo land because at my age it may not happen anyway or at least for ages.

I feel so rubbish at not being super excited...I am about having a beautiful child but not at being pregnant....at all

Please do not judge me or have a go I am feeling rubbish as it is...

I was so nervous about getting pregnant again with dc2. I was also absolutely dreading the newborn stage, as dc1 was not the easiest of babies.

I think it's normal, unless you are one of these very lucky people who has a perfect pregnancy, birth experience and easy baby. I know one such person, who then had a harder time with dc2. So in a way, at least you are more prepared! My friend who breezed through dc1 had her second very quickly, so had a small age gap and a more challenging time of it, which I think is worse in some ways. All fine now though, but she says never again.

@TheQueensGambit

I was so nervous about getting pregnant again with dc2. I was also absolutely dreading the newborn stage, as dc1 was not the easiest of babies.

I think it's normal, unless you are one of these very lucky people who has a perfect pregnancy, birth experience and easy baby. I know one such person, who then had a harder time with dc2. So in a way, at least you are more prepared! My friend who breezed through dc1 had her second very quickly, so had a small age gap and a more challenging time of it, which I think is worse in some ways. All fine now though, but she says never again.

Thank you for the reassurance. I think because thee has been such a gap it almost feels like ttc number 1 because I have forgotten so much in terms of what to expect when pregnant.

Im 37 with an 11 year old ttc my second and OH's first. Had a chemical last month and sometimes struggling to feel ok with carrying on. I'm frustrated and just want to be pregnant so I don't have to worry about getting pregnant 🤦🏻‍♀️

I’m in a similar position to you, just turned 38, I have a 6 year old dd and have been ttc number 2 for 5 months.
I think it’s perfectly natural to feel anxious this time round because you know more about the reality of pregnancy and you obviously had a really tough time last time.
I’m the same as you, I feel like it’s been so long since I was last pregnant I’ve forgotten everything, apart from the sickness! It’s also taking me longer to get pregnant this time which is making it harder to feel really excited. I’m sure once you get your BFP you’ll feel better.