Annoyed rant

[Whatthefudgecake]

I miscarried a couple of months ago at 11 weeks. Initially we decided to wait to ttc until after Christmas but then I read that women who fall pregnant within 3 months of a mc have a slightly improved chance of a successful pregnancy so we continued. Yesterday morning woke up to no AF which was due. Took a pregnancy test and a clear second line on an FRER popped up straight away - I was absolutely delighted! Told DH who was pleased too. Less then two hours later I start getting cramps and by the afternoon AF has arrived full fucking force. I'm so so so annoyed. I know these things happen, I know chemicals are quite common but fuck me. A miscarriage and then a chemical sucks. I wish I hadn't tested. Lesson learned. Also really wish I had just left all this for a few months - getting my hopes up and then having them dashed so quickly feels a bit raw after the miscarriage. There's not really a point to this thread other than a good moan!

❤️ nothing to say but a virtual hug xx

Take heart from the fact you've gotten pregnant twice, it will be your time soon xx

Thank you both x

In a way I think it’s good that u were able to find out it was a chemical, if you hadn’t tested you’d have thought it was just your regular period and be none the wiser. I would contact your GP and get it recorded as they would be willing to do further tests with 3 losses or more. Hopefully you won’t be in that position of course x

@BriocheBuns that's a good point, thanks. I hadn't thought of that.

I’ve had 3 and I’m glad I tested because if I hadn’t I’d have assumed it was my period x

@Whatthefudgecake I know how you feel cos I've had 5! I'm currently 5 months pregnant with my first. Take it easy (I know it's hard) it'll all work out before you know it

@asabee oh wow! Congratulations on your pregnancy!! I hope everything goes well for you!

My third loss was a chemical and it meant I could be referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic.

As it happens, I was pregnant again by the time I got seen, but they were able to get me on extra meds and get me support from EPU when I started bleeding (worked out okay in the end).