TTC #2 and it’s not happening.. tears again.

[Anydream88]

8 months in TTC #2 and yet again nothing. DH says he feels pressured and sometimes can’t even perform around the mid cycle but even when he has, nothing. I’m 34 and DD1 is 6 now and I just feel so disheartened. I’ve had to get rid of my Facebook as everytime I logged on someone else seems to be pregnant. I feel like as I’ve already got DD there’s no community of people who feel this pain as everyone is just thinking I should be grateful to have 1. But I never wanted just one to be honest. I feel resentful to everyone. DH just says to relax and if it doesn’t happen it doesn’t matter but I’ve come on again on the same day my cousin announced she’s pregnant and I’m in the bath as I type this in tears.
Don’t even know why I’m posting.

Not got anything to help but just wanted to say I'm sorry you are going through this. I know how you feel, slightly different as while I'm desperate for a second I don't think it will happen as physically and financially we are struggling with one. Feel like we can't complain as others are struggling to get one but it's still tough realising the family I've dreamt of won't quite be how I dreamed.

Sending hugs.

@spacegirl86 Thank you How old is your child? Is there no chance you would try when they are older? That’s exactly what it is, it’s coming to terms with the thought that things might not work out how you always dreamt they would xx

She's still really young so maybe... but I can't see how much will change in a few years and I'm not getting any younger!

Sorry to hear you are feeling like this. We wanted more too but have had losses and I now think I'm too old and dc is too old to have the kind of relationship I wanted. Going to keep trying another 6 months ( deadline has been extended so many times!) and then try and move on . I am so grateful for our dc and I also think this year has been really hard for us as lockdown isolation highlights the fact that your child doesn't have anyone to play with.. hopefully when this is all over it will be easier

I feel your pain! Been trying for 16 months for baby number 2. Got pregnant last cycle and had a MC at 6 weeks. So many people are getting pregnant around me, including my ex best friend for that extra kick in the teeth. I'm 35 so not getting any younger, my little one has just turned 3 and I really wanted that closer age gap too. Extremely deflating isn't it?! :-(

I feel the same. DC is 6 and I've been TTC 4 years. 4 failed IVF cycles and one failure last week with donor eggs. I feel so sad as I wanted a sibling for DC and am so scared it will never happen. Also coming up to age 42 so feeling old too.

Hugs for you OP. We are also struggling with DC2. With my first I conceived so quickly, but we've just reached the 1 year mark of TTC number two and all I have to show for it is one ectopic pregnancy and a shit load of wasted cash on FRERs. I really didn't see this coming.

Have you been to see the GP to rule out any obvious underlying issues? Mine were happy to do my blood work despite my already having a child.

@Anydream88 don’t give up. Me and my husband found out we were pregnant with baby no.2 in July after trying for 9 months. Our little girl was 3 in may and we got pregnant with her straight away. Stupidly thought the same would happen this time and every month it would kill me knowing I wasn’t pregnant. It will happen x