Always like hearing different experiences and age gaps.
Nc as lots of info.
Dh and I have a boy who turned 1 in November. I would love a 2nd child and we're having a think about age gaps and when is good, also looking at jobs and life in general including the pandemic.
Ideally I'd like a spring baby which would mean getting pregnant summer 2021, but dh is worried that may be too short an age gap! So if we had a baby March 2022 our current son will be 2 years and 4 months - according to our friend that's a very difficult age! Is this true? She said between 2 years and 8 months and 3 years is perfect. Dh is also studying alongside his work until summer 2022, so although doable may be more stressful to have a baby that spring.
The thing is I don't want a summer baby (we have SO many summer birthdays in my family it's just stressful and July and August are the worst!) plus I have teachers in my family and have it in my head not to have a summer baby. Obviously not the be all and end all but that's a preference. I also don't want the new baby's birthdays to close to DS which is autumn and then you've got Christmas and New year, basically turning back into wanting a spring baby the year after. So that's waiting to try and conceive summer 2022 which is really, really far away! Who knows if it'll even happen so quickly? Plus I'll be 33.
If we do it sooner then my current work set up from home which is also part time is great. I dont like the idea of waiting for a year and a half when I might have to start commuting into the office again and basically fall pregnant when things are starting to get good again in the world pandemic wise!
On the other hand, would love to do an extension to the house and probably a good idea pre baby no 2 right?