Hoping you wonderful ladies (and gents if there are any) can help...
I'm 33 (hubby same age) and I have PCOS, diagnosed 10 years ago, and at the time we were told that conceiving naturally would be highly unlikely. I am not overweight and eat low GI to manage insulin resistance and the only symptoms I have ever had are skin breakouts and annovulation.
Fast forward to present day and we are very lucky to have 2 beautiful daughters, age 7 and 3, who were conceived naturally. We do have 4 angel babies too :(
Our most recent loss was a MMC in June this year, which was an awful experience made worse by COVID. Since then I haven't ovulated once. I've had 2 long annovulatory cycles and am currently day 62 of the third (I temp and track my cycles so am 100% of no ovulation)
We have discussed it at length and neither of us feel happy putting us, and more importantly the girls who are old enough to be aware of it, through the process and tests etc of going down the medical route. Also feel ever so grateful for our DDs and don't feel like we are appropriate candidates for anything when there are so many people who are just wanting their first (close friends and family included)
I suppose the reason I am writing this is to ask if anyone else has reached a point where, although they would have liked another child, they accepted that it wouldn't happen and have found a way to move on?
Both hubby and I feel torn in two over the pros and cons of carrying on. We flit between the two decisions multiple times a day. I'm concerned over a 5+ year age gap and the impact that will have on the girls and also worried that this is all a sign from some higher power that we're not meant to have another one. Equally worried that we'll regret it if we call it a day.
In ever such a muddle and just after others' perspectives...