Scared

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Hi,

New to this site,

I’ve been informally trying to conceive for 3/4 months and just had 2 faint positive lines on 2 different asda pregnancy tests.
I feel awful saying it, but I feel more scared than happy. I definitely want to be pregnant but I just feel so scared and in shock. I’m scared that it’s a false positive, I’m scared that if it’s real I’ll lose it, I’m even scared to tell my family! I thought I would be really happy but I just feel so nervous - is this normal??
I have a partner who I’ve been with for 6 years - and we both wanted this. We’ve both got a good job, a house, and feel financially stable. My partner is happy so I can’t say I don’t feel supported.

I just want to feel happy and excited but I can’t shake this feeling - any help/advice would be greatly appreciated.

Firstly congratulations! And yes, totally normal. I felt exactly the same as you when we found out we were expecting our first. I was terrified! Take a deep breath, you are stronger than you think. Take one day at a time. There’s no rush to tell anyone if you don’t feel comfortable. All any of us can do is hope for the best in early pregnancy. Once you’ve got your head around being pregnant you will probably start to feel a bit excited. I’m not sure that’s helped at all.. just know that everything will work out ok in the end 🥰 hugs xo

@Farfaraway1

Firstly congratulations! And yes, totally normal. I felt exactly the same as you when we found out we were expecting our first. I was terrified! Take a deep breath, you are stronger than you think. Take one day at a time. There’s no rush to tell anyone if you don’t feel comfortable. All any of us can do is hope for the best in early pregnancy. Once you’ve got your head around being pregnant you will probably start to feel a bit excited. I’m not sure that’s helped at all.. just know that everything will work out ok in the end 🥰 hugs xo

Thank you!! That does help a lot. I think I just feel guilty for not being over the moon and almost ungrateful? I will try and take each day as it comes and hopefully I'll start to get excited. It's just nice to know someone else has felt like this too xx

Hi there

Congratulations and try the test in a day or 2!

I think these feelings are normal. I did IVF and remember thinking, oh god, do I want this and I'm scared of childbirth and pregnancy and everything. Scared of losing the baby and things going wrong.

It's totally normal

Hormones eventually kick in and then you'll feel calm and happy and excited

Good luck

Possibly your in shock, as soon as I get positive results I go all funny and terrified.

It’s strange because all we want is the bfp and when we get it we start backtracking. It’s natural. It’ll all sink in soon and pls just cuddle your partner whenever you feel a bit off or unsure etc 💓

Thank you everyone - I took a digital test this evening and it came back positive and for some reason I felt a bit happier so hopefully I’m starting to come round. I’m still petrified but glad to know I’m not the only one that has felt this way! I had a good talk with my partner about how I’m feeling, and he’s over the moon so that definitely helps. Appreciate your comments 💕

Totally agree with PPs, when I got my BFP I was mostly shocked and scared. It took me awhile to get my head around it. DS was very much planned but theory and reality are very different things.

Congratulations!

No matter how ready you are for a child, when you see those two lines, it's terrifying 😂 it's totally natural as it's a huge life changing thing.
As you get used to it, you'll start feeling happy and excited. 😊

I was also terrified the second they put my first child on me after giving birth so don't worry if that happens lol.
There's literally a video of the midwife putting her on my chest and I'm just looking at her in utter horror, saying "oh my god!! I wasn't expecting to be creeped out!!!" 😂