TTC success stories please? Feeling deflated

[Bugzbunny]

Just looking for any good stories here. If you had a good/positive time TTC and if you conceived in under/around 6 months?

Currently going into month 3 of TTC with DF. He’s positive it’ll happen soon enough and whenever, he’s got a good mindset. He’s also quite rational and reminds me about my irregular cycle for 1 of these months due to having something bad happen in my life which led to stress. I’m assuming the stress from this delayed my cycle! This is what we’ve concluded as this month I was very positive, a lot happier and had all my usual symptoms.

But, I’ve tested 10dpo and it’s negative so I just know it’s not our month again. I can’t help but feel sad I’m trying to think “it’ll happen soon just not now” but I just keep feeling like I’ll never see those lovely two lines.

I feel worse as I’m quite young so expected this to be quick as everyone in my age group usually falls pregnant accidentally or easily from what I’ve heard from who I know (I’m older than 20 but younger than 25)

So please, tell me any positive TTC stories you have? Did you think it’d take a while and then it happened month 4/5 or did it happen month 3? Was it unexpected did you have a good or bad mindset

Just want cheering up by hearing some positive stories

3 months here with dc1. Dc2 was not REALLY planned, but it took about the same time from attempting half assedly, to do natural cycle contraception app thingy till I fell pregnant. We knew we wanted a baby soon, but thought we would give it a few months, so I used an app and tried to guess fertile days. I was doing it all wrong, which was fine for us obviously as we did want another baby.

Anyway, fwiw I was 30 when I fell pregnant with dc1 and I was 32 when I fell pregnant with dc2.

3 months really isn't long though, no matter what your age. Take with a pinch of salt all the people who proudly declare how very quickly they fell pregnant. Dh has now convinced himself that dc1 took one month and was dead easy . It was easy enough for us, compared to other couples who really struggle, but it was never one month!

@DeeandraReynolds thank you! I’ve kind of entered the mindset of because it’s not happened in the 1st two months then we’ll struggle!

I’m not really seeing there can be an inbetween and it could literally happen this 3rd month for all I know

I think we spend so much time in our youth desperately AVOIDING pregnancy, that we assume it will happen the second we stop using birth control. But that isn't usually true .

Good luck!

3 months is really early to be worrying/getting deflated. They say on average it takes a couple a year to get pregnant. My DH and I have been TTC for nearly 18 months now and although I do feel sad from time to time that it hasn't happened yet and others seem to get pregnant really quickly or by accident, I'm trying to stay positive and know it will happen when the time is right etc.

Try not to worry or get down too much about it now stay positive and fingers crossed it will happen for you soon x

OP the NHS reckons that 98% of couples on your age group conceive within a year, so I guess average is 6 months. I know it's hard but try not to stress about, you're well within that.

On here you will tend to see posts from people who are having trouble but if you search previous threads there are also a lot of people who conceived more quickly.

@dinosforall I have been a MN reader/lurker for the past month and have noticed I see a lot more posts of people struggling than I do stories of those who conceive quick!

So I feel like that’s just gave me the mindset that I’ll struggle because a lot of people seem to but it’s not the case (I hope!)

I do feel bad writing this post I was scared I’d get people angry with me because it’s only been 2 months for us (going into 3rd) which is nothing but I still do feel disappointed that it’s another BFN. And I can’t control this and I’m a major perfectionist so I struggle with things I can’t control!

But thank you. Hopefully it’s soon

@ElleL91 thank you lovely. Sending you lots of baby dust and hope your time is asap xxx

@Bugzbunny hi lovely! 26 here and on month 11 ttc 😅 I’ve had private tests and all is as it should be!! DH has a child from a previous I like to call it “quick encounter” 😂 so I honestly get how you’re feeling, as I assume it’s me with the problem!!!

What I will say, is it does get slightly easier, I was definitely more upset in the first few months than I am now. These things can take a bit of time and my god it’ll be worth it when it happens 🤍 I also assumed it would happen straight away as most of my friends babies were “accidents” or so they say!! I also have friends who’ve taken 6 months and up to 18 months. There’s no reason or rhythm to it, which sucks for us😟 anyway, it could be your month girl!! ✨ positive thoughts for the little bambino!!

If you wanted, you could try opks if you’re not sure when you ovulate, they can sometimes add / take away stress depending on if you prefer to know you’re doing all you can. I prefer my months without them, then I don’t seem to get mad if we haven’t DTD 😂 sending lots of baby dust your way- sorry I have no positive stories, just friends whom are all very different!! Xxx

@Izzie94 thank you so much for this ❤️ And it is true it really sucks but thank you for your lovely words

Sending you lots of baby dust and hope it happens ASAP for you!🤞🙏 xxx

Honestly, and I mean this is the nicest possible way, the best thing you can do for now is to get off these boards, stop tracking your ovulation, and just have some fun trying.

DC1 I got pregnant second cycle, DC2 4th cycle. DC1 we just had fun with it, DC2 I spent ages on these boards, tracking ovulation and worrying. Honestly I think that’s Party why it took longer second time.

Don’t make a problem until you actually have one. If you still aren’t pregnant by cycle 8 or 9 see your GP. But until then, please try not to worry. Good luck!

Hi @Bugzbunny I’m glad to see this thread and that someone feels similarly to me. I’m 29, came off the pill in August. We weren’t actively trying in august and September but weren’t not trying, tried properly with tracking and ovulation tests in October and November. So I guess 3/4 months of trying in total.
It’s not long at all, I know that, but I read stories of people trying for 2 years with no fertility problems and it does make me worry. It doesn’t help that I have three close friends who got pregnant this year and it was all in their first month of trying
I know people are more likely to post about negative experiences but it makes me feel like getting pregnant will be so difficult and it’s something I’m worrying about a lot. Glad I’m not alone in this!