A shoulder to cry on

[DJLDomino]

IDK whether this is the right place but my wife and I have been TTC for a couple of years now. Today was another month where it was confirmed it's not happening and I just feel low. I want to share all my feelings with her but I worry about upsetting her because it seems the problems are on her side. She has PCOS and has been doing everything she can - changing diet, cutting out sugar, alcohol etc. She's on Metformin presently (about two months in) and we were waiting on IVF but with covid, it's seemingly delayed.

IDK what I hope to gain from coming here. I guess some consolation from kind and compassionate people who have been/are going through the same. My faith evaporates with every month and today I'm struggling. At 37, I feel I delayed things too long and have ruined it for both of us.

@DJLDomino well done for posting this, it can't have been easy. My advice is talk to her. One of the biggest "complaints" from ladies on here struggling is their partners dont understand how they feel, or their partners don't seem to care like they do. I bet she is feeling the same. Honestly, opening up to her won't make it worst, it will probably help her, and make her feel so much less alone. You're going through a tough time and getting support as a couple is so important. Even talking about it will help you both im sure. There are probably lots of men out there who feel like you do but haven't had the balls to say it. The fact you've written this post means you are clearly an incredibly caring partner and will be an amazing daddy. Talk to her ❤

@Ams19 Thank you, that is such a kind reply and it's very helpful to have a female perspective. I definitely don't want her to feel alone. I feel for her because although we share this journey together, she feels that so much of the pressure is on her because it's her body we're waiting on every month. But you're right, talking is a lot better. I want her to know that if there is a problem it is OUR problem and not hers alone.

@DJLDomino I honestly believe if you tell her how you feel, all the frustration, pain, disappointment, she will really appreciate hearing it. You will make her feel so much less lonely. And yes of course it will be hard for her to hear, but will also probably give her a sense of relief she isn't going through this alone