Fed up

[WhatToDo202093]

Anyone else fes up ttc? It has been 12+months now and not even a squinter of a bfp. Loads of people around me have either had children or are expecting or are on there 2nd or 3rd child. Just feeling very deflated, was hoping to have some good news before Christmas but that isn't looking likely.

Just needed to have a rant.

Any advice on how to cope would be great though.

I'm feeling exactly the same! been TTC since July, I was hoping for good news before christmas too - have had 4 babies in the family this year and 3 friends already due for early next year, I feel like I'm so obsessed with falling pregnant and it's so hard as we havent actually told anyone that we are TTC as I dont want the pressure of people asking questions but sometimes would be nice to just have a cry to someone if that makes sense! It's so frustrating as it's just so out of our hands isnt it!xx

Ditto!! We're 8 months in, not one BFP, and multiple pregnancy announcements from friends and family - I've literally just received a 12-week scan photo from a friend who 'wasn't even really trying'. And we've not told anyone either, so I'm isolated with my own frustration. I feel so guilty but I can't even be happy for anyone else anymore, I'm fed up of it not being me.

To top it off I've had a UTI for the past 2-weeks so haven't been able to DTD, I'm ovulating tomorrow and I'm pretty sure I have thrush now (TMI, sorry!) from the 3 rounds of antibiotics, so that's this month lost. I could cry but I think I'm out of tears.

The downsides of all the DTD'ing ey @galatea098 haha! 🥴 I'm in a mood about it all today but going to just get through it, maybe buy myself a massive Starbucks and have a massive gin later, all the things I usually avoid around this t

this time*. Can't even send a bloody message right!!

It's such a hard time when ttc (very lonely). I understand I was ttc for 4 years (I now have 3 dc aged 11-16 via fertility treatment). In some ways getting to 12 months was harder for me than 2/3years in because reality hits you may need some assistance.

Please if you haven't seek support from gp /referral for treatment - this really helped me as I felt I was being proactive - the not doing anything but dtd was worse as it had become quite apparent that that wasn't going to work.
Be kind to yourself both my siblings accidentally got pregnant twice while I was ttc - if you need to take yourself away from it for a while do so.
Communication/understanding is key your both going to feel low but maybe at different times. Also if you have some body external to talk to that can help.
I worked over Christmas for many years to avoid the upset of this time of year.
Try and focus sometime where its not the centre of your universe (I know this is hard because you don't want to plan anything 'because you might be pregnant by then').
Take each day as it comes and know that its OK to avoid some things because it's just too much (and you don't need an excuse).
Hope you all have happy news soon. 💐

Oh I completely get you. It's so hard it's like every month is an endless cycle of trying and waiting and it's so hard to keep your mind off it and not obsess.

I'm also finding it hard because every time I've got bfp I have known very early on, so I spend basically the whole tww knowing in my heart that it's bfn but still having to wait until AF comes.

But I make an effort to take baths, get my nails done, watch films...just do nice things for myself as well and not get totally consumed by it.

Thank you for all your replies, sounds like your all having a crap time of it too! Patiently waiting for af to arrive (again) finding it hard to not symptom spot and just not think about it anymore!