Hi, I just joined.
Me and my s/o have been ttc for 10 months now. Apparently I have always had a low libido - past relationships always complained that we barely dtd every 2weeks (!). But I seem to have met my match with current partner. We went 6months without once and he didn't even notice. I think I'd be pretty happy with once a month or so, and it gets me really down sometimes. But our relationship is rock solid otherwise and I have zero concerns about fully committing to him and having a family, even if I often wish we got more bedroom time
Cut to last feb and we start ttc. At this point it was 3mo since we last dtd. I've not told a single person that we are ttc. I'm v close to my mum but not many friends around, plus lockdown etc. I've really been struggling recently not having anyone to talk to about this. Plus s/o's nan who brought him up just went into hospital so now he's even more distracted.
There is so much thought and planning I have to do. Taking tablets, temperatures, charts, opks... and all he has to do is bed me once a month but we can't even manage that. It feels like a joke to me now that he'll even come and ask 'oh did you do opk' then I say yes it was positive and he's like "yeah awesome" then doesn't ever mention it again and just rolls over if I try to get near him. In 10 months of "trying" we managed to dtd in fertile days maybe 3 times. I'm scared that I'm almost 34 now and only 3 real tries in only a year... if theres any fertility issues as well we don't know about we won't find out until its too late already. I don't really want to keep going after 35. I lost my dad young because he was older when I was born and I don't want that. Plus all the health risks associated etc
I feel so hopeless about it all. Like I should just give up and try to accept ill have a life without children and move on.