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FriedEggOnToast · 20/11/2020 09:51

Hi all!

After years of trying, me and my husband decided to try IVF and I became pregnant on the first attempt. We now have an amazing 20 month old son. We would love to have a second child, but we can't afford IVF again, and was just wondering if anyone has any success stories of becoming pregnant naturally for the second time?

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agradecida · 20/11/2020 09:54

Did you find any reason from tests as to why you'd struggled to conceive before IVF?

Izzie94 · 20/11/2020 09:57

@FriedEggOnToast hi lovely! No experience from me as I’m still ttc after almost a year 😅 but what I would say from my best friends experience, is that is depends where the issue came from? Was it low sperm count? Not ovulating? Etc etc

Fortunately for my friend (I say loosely!) she was not ovulating, and nothing kickstarted it, so they had IVF. They then continued to have unprotected sex and 8 months later they were pregnant naturally! They were very shocked, but it seemed that having one baby her body then knew what to do? And was ovulating?! I’ve also heard a few stories from others with unexplained infertility where this has happened. Good luck on your journey and I hope you get your second little bundle of joy ☺️💜✨ x

FriedEggOnToast · 20/11/2020 10:44

@agradecida
Was put down to "unexplained infertility" as everything seemed fine, but I put it down to "lazy swimmers" and, considering I got pregnant on first attemp, things just needed a helping hand!

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agradecida · 20/11/2020 10:52

We have unexplained infertility (sperm fine, ovulate regularly, good quality eggs). We've had 2 successful embryo transfers (and 2 unsucessful), so for us it could happen naturally and we will probably not use any form of contraception again, but I thinking would be incredibly unlikely.

I also didn't use any contraception with 2 long term partners over 10 years (obv. not at the start of the 2nd relationship so not 10 years solid) and it never happened. I think as much as you do find those stories of 'miracles' (and there is always hope and the possibility it might happen for you), there are many many stories of people for whom it just never happened. But those stories aren't as interesting and don't really get retold on internet forum threads: it's the 'friend of my sister who was told she'd never conceive naturally' stories that get shared because they are not the norm and they stand out in the memory of the teller.

In your position, I'd decide if I wanted to go down the route of continuing TTC in earnest with the likes of the sperm meets egg plan and whether that would put stress and strain on your relationship if you continued to be unsuccessful each month, or just not use any contraception from now on and decide if you can be content with 1 child if it just never happens for you, or decide if you want to try to save up for IVF with the risk of spending all that money and it still not working.

Infertility really really sucks and it's really unfair that we can't just have sex and make a baby. If hearing success stories about those who conceived naturally after fertility issues helps you to have some hope then that's great. And a lot depends on your circumstances, age, etc. If you're late 20s then you still have plenty of time to try again for a few years, then reconsider your financial situation. I just think it's also important to manage your expectations.

Very best of luck to you. I very much hope that you get that much wanted second child in the future.

FriedEggOnToast · 20/11/2020 13:39

@Izzie94
That is what I was hoping for, in that by having had IVF it would kickstart my body into knowing how to conceive naturally, but nothing so far! Perhaps we are doing it wrong! 🤭🙄🤨
Best of luck on your journey too 💜x

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Izzie94 · 20/11/2020 18:06

@FriedEggOnToast hahaha perhaps we are!! I no longer believe in the “we only had sex once it was an accident” I BLOODY WISH 😂😂😂 x

ArtfulScreamer · 20/11/2020 18:45

My DD is also 20 months and was conceived after 5 years TTC without a hint of a BFP and successful first round IVF. We were also unexplained and I had an appointment for a baseline scan last month to start the ball rolling for a FET as we have one frozen embryo from our round of IVF. The baseline scan needed to be done on a certain day of my cycle and AF just never came 6 pregnancy tests and an early scan later I've just about got my head around the fact that I'm pregnant naturally.

Tararararara · 21/11/2020 07:13

Happened to 3 friends - first tried for 6 years, 2 lots of IVF, had DC1, 10 months later found out she was unexpectedly pregnant with DC2, no 5&6.

2nd friend had DC1 through IVF after years of trying, 2years later TTC naturally, happened on the 3rd attempt.

Both unexplained infertility.

3rd friend, infertile due to cancer treatment and only had one ovary (ovarian cancer). Had DC1 with embryos frozen pre ovary removal, chemo & radio therapy. After he was born, went for cancer check up and planning meeting for removal of other ovary and scan found she was 5 months pregnant with twins! She had 3 under 1!

Fullmoonparty · 21/11/2020 07:18

Yes one of my good friends did IVF they had unexplained infertility- they have a DD via IVF who is 17 months old and then fell pregnant naturally during lockdown and is due to give birth end of Jan! Smile

FriedEggOnToast · 23/11/2020 14:53

@agradecida
Thank you so much for your reply. I think for me its nice to hear of peoples success stories, as it means that it is not completely impossible it could happen for me too, and stops me from being negative...
And yes I agree, infertility does suck!! What I can't stand is when people comment "oh isn't it about time you have another baby" or "surely you're not going to let your son be an only child"... I know they don't mean anything by it, but if only they knew how much those words hurt!
I hope that I don't sound selfish or ungrateful for wanting a second child, as I know for some, it doesn't happen at all.
All the very best of luck to you, and keep positive 💜😊x

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FriedEggOnToast · 23/11/2020 14:56

@Izzie94
What?!?!?! 'Only had sex once'... never have and never will believe in that one... its just a myth!! 😂🤪

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FriedEggOnToast · 23/11/2020 15:04

@ArtfulScreamer
Many many congratulations, I so happy for you 💜😊🥳🍼🤰x
Your journey and my journey are similar up to a certain point... I hope I follow your lead!!

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FriedEggOnToast · 23/11/2020 15:13

@Tararararara
@Fullmoonparty
Great stories with happy endings!!

@Tararararara I'm sorry for what your 3rd friend has been through... wow 3 kids under the age of 1 is quite a handful!

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BananaFlavouredPancakes · 23/11/2020 15:20

Hi @FriedEggOnToast, my friends had their first baby via IVF after over a year of unexplained infertility. They then got a wee surprise when their first was about 16m without any real effort! Hope that is helpful and all the best with everything! Flowers

Joswis · 23/11/2020 15:35

Have a friend who had 2 IVF cycles as she was assessed as having a 0.01% chance of conceiving naturally. Had such a traumatic birth, had decided to stick to one child. 4 years later, naturally pregnant.

She uses contraception now!

glastogal · 23/11/2020 15:35

First baby conceived by IVF after being told I don't ovulate (despite clockwork regular periods). Currently pregnant with a surprise 2nd, conceived naturally while I was losing the last stone for another round of IVF. I'm baffled but obviously thrilled. I do know other people with similar stories but honestly hated hearing about it until it happened to me!!

FriedEggOnToast · 30/11/2020 07:01

More great success stories.... am trying to keep positive 🤞

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