Is it pointless to have sex after ovulation?

[Gina428]

I'm getting in the mind set that I just don't want to have sex after ovulation now, I see it as pointless. Please knock some sense into me! Anyone else else feel this way?

To be honest, we end up DTD so much leading up to ovulation that I can't be bothered afterwards!

Depends if you want your other half to feel like he is just a sperm machine at ovulation. It then becomes bland and boring and scheduled.

I have sex throughout my cycle except when AF is here as it’s important to have a bond with hubby even when I don’t really have the urge. I’m not sex mad though, only once or twice a week if that when not ovulating.

If you don't want to have sex then that's a perfectly valid reason not to.

However, your post makes it sound like there could be issues running deeper than that and those are worth speaking to your partner about.

Was it pointless having sex before you started TTC?

Sex is not just about making babies, it is something to maintain a close relationship and bring intimacy in a relationship.

Obv don't have sex if you aren't into it but if you've gone from regular sex all month through and then go to three times a month your partner will start feeling like his only purpose is to make you pregnant and that could lead to a lot of resentment.

I seem to be fixed on the idea that I need to get pregnant so I'm not really interested in sex after ovulation. Before we started TTC three months ago, I'd want it whenever! I find I'm not enjoying it as much since TTC. It's like it's constantly on my mind!

Not pointless, just a different point.

No matter how sure you are about ovulation, there's always scope to be wrong. BBT, ovulation sticks, symptoms etc aren't 100% accurate. So it's worth doing from a conception point of view anyway. And yes, it will be good for your relationship if your partner feels that you fancy him and aren't only interested in his baby making abilities.

I understand the feeling. TTC is hugely motivating and I don't have a naturally high sex drive.