Everyone's pregnant but me - any positivity in this?

[Pregh]

Ladies,
Has anyone found some coping mechanisms and tips on how to feel good and positive about the TTC journey (which is much longer than expected) whilst literally everyone around me is pregnant or giving birth right now?!

I am very happy for them, and this is not a competition, and everyone's time will come... However... it's hard...
I want to change my mindset to feel like it's easy to get pregnant because every month is a brand new start...but we've been going for nearly two years now, we're both healthy, it's just not happened yet..and we're both getting fed up with it..we want a baby so much.
End of complaints ☺️
I am grateful we have a lovely relationship and supportive family too (although why did half of the family get pregnant this year and we did not... that's the hard bit to swallow).
Anyone feeling like this? Or anyone got any suggestions on how to feel better about this please? ❤️

@mrsdrambuie omg i have goosebumps! I am booked in for HSG on Monday!!
Btw was it painful?
I'll take your advice and will be active in the week after ;) fingers crossed!!! And for you too!!!

I had read your comment about HSG so yes I thought you’d like to hear a good news story 😊

Personally no, I wouldn’t say it hurt. I commented on a post about that recently - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/infertility/4070678-hsg-is-it-really-that-bad

Let us know how you get on! 🤞🏻

Thanks :D clearly i forgot that i mentioned it and dont read my own posts back hahahaha.
Indeed i am very much after all positive stories right now!!!
Thank youuuuuu

Hello OP. I'm sure all of us who have had difficulty conceiving can relate to all these feelings you have! It's natural to feel sad when others around us have something we so desperately want. On a plus side it's great you've had fertility testing. Good luck for your upcoming hcg.
I found out I'm pregnant just last week. It took us 3 years 5 months ( unexplained infertility) you will get there, take care of yourself and feel what you need to feel to get through xx

@lepardprint thanks a lot. Congratulations!!! You must feel so excited! That was a long journey for sure.
Thanks for your words, it's really important to acknowledge that i feel this way and need to process it, be kind to myself and so on. I am sure all of this is just make me more ready for when we get the famous BFP :)

Thank you @Lou98!

Congrats @lepardprint

@lepardprint congratulations! Was that naturally? We will be 3 year mark in March also with unexplained infertility.

Usually I start spotting between day 20 - 25 but got to day 27 this cycle, first time in a while I've let myself get my hopes up.

Thankyou lovelies!

@MrsChicken89 it was indeed naturally, completely out of the blue! I can't believe it.

As a few people have stated and I completely agree, it is definitely down to luck. I think as long as you have any problems ruled out, many of which have cures. You just need to keep going, I remember reading a statistic of a healthy couple have a 25% chance of conceiving in any given month, that's bloody low so it really is a case of just waiting for the odds to come in! X

Lucky baby powder to everyone then! ❤️🤞

You're so not alone. Its the worst so wishing you lots of luck in your journey.

A friend announced their baby news today and it is horrible feeling so jealous. I would have had my 12 week scan this week had i not miscarried. I've just been stopping myself crying all day.

@Ashesandroses so sorry for your loss ❤️ you're not alone either. If you feeling like crying then cry..your body is doing it's best and somehow your perfect baby soul will find you again when the time is right.
Jealousy is the hard bit, because it's natural but it doesn't feel good. I try to focus my mind on positives - for example - i really want my mum who lives abroad to be in the UK when i have my baby, she wouldn't be able to be here now due to covid, so i am grateful that our perfect timing will come when it's best for us.
It's hard but you can do it! Fingers crossed for you! 🤞

I’m having a low one tonight. I can’t believe it’s been this long that I’ve had no positivity.

I said to my friend last year I’d be annoyed if I didn’t have a baby in 2020 and now I doubt it would happen in 2021.

The same best friend who has now started maternity leave to have her baby and I feel there is weird tension between and I don’t feel like we can talk about anything other than her baby

I just feel so sad and alone :(

@Chica1990 dont be sad please :( think the baby soul that's awaiting you somewhere in the universe - you want it to be happy when it looks at you...
I know it's hard, especially with close friends having babies, but you're definitely not alone! There's sooo many of us on this forum feeling similar..and also i bet you have some other friends or family who are either in similar situation or can empathize with it.
It's going to happen for everyone when the time is right, just keep hanging in there...
Sending you positive vibes! When you're down, try to think about happy place and memories..look at happy photos..try to fake it until you make it.. it's ok to be sad for a while, but make sure you have these little things to cheer you up when you're ready!

@MrsDrambuie I had the HSG yesterday and i am soooo relieved!!! I was stressed and worried about it, felt crap from the antibiotics and painkillers i was advised to take beforehand. The actual procedure was uncomfortable but not painful, not even half pain compared to my period cramps, and it only lasted like ten minutes. Reeeeally had nothing to panic about! I guess i am lucky,i know someone women have more unpleasant experiences.
The results were good too! And we have actually now received all of our fertility tests results - all ok! On one hand, i am very happy that there's 'nothing wrong with us'. On the other hand, it's a bit frustrating that it hasn't happened for almost two years.. despite no health barriers...
Anyway, trying to look at the bright side - we're learning more about our bodies, our relationship has grown even closer, and we'll cherish the baby so much when it comes to our lives! (Plus have time to make maternity savings:))
Good luck to all of us!

I’m glad the HSG went ok for you @Pregh I’ve got mine booked for Monday and I’m actually looking forward to it! (Because it’s progress, and I spoke to my doctor about it in February and then Covid halted everything).

On the jealousy point, it’s completely normal to feel like that and no-one should feel bad at themselves for feeling that way. Our bodies are designed to carry a baby so it’s perfectly normal to think we are going to do it one day. Then it seems so unfair that other women can do it but you can’t (or it just hasn’t happened yet).

@MrsDrambuie good luck for Monday!!! Indeed, it's a step forward! Really thankful for all the hospital staff too, working in covid times is extra pressure, but they're doing a great job!

@Pregh just caught up on this thread. It sounds like you are in a much better head space and being so positive which is fantastic! Really glad you're okay! That's brilliant all the tests are out the way.. lots of women fall after the hycosy too xz

@lepardprint thank you :) yes, feeling better! Hopefully it'll stay that way ;) thanks a lot