TTC 2nd baby....Why is it SO hard

[Mamatoalittlebear]

Hi. We've been TTC our 2nd baby since March. 8 months have now passed with nothing. This month feeling broken 😪. Super emotional and worried at the prospect of getting to a year with no success. Anyone else in similar situations?

I am in the exact same boat! TTC baby no.2 since March also. Getting frustrated and emotional. I’m in the TWW at the moment but just don’t feel hopeful anymore. I have a daughter who took 6 months to conceive after a miscarriage and I was really hoping this time around we might get lucky and catch early. Unfortunately it’s taking longer! Keep having to remind myself we aren’t in a rush and we’re lucky to have our daughter!

Couldn't be more alike. We had a miscarriage, took 6 months to then conceive our daughter who is now 4. Decided to have another and start TTC March but literally nothing. So grateful for our daughter but when you decide to TTC it suddenly feels like an emptiness you didn't know was there. I've come on my period today so the feeling of defeat is high. Unsure what more to do. Can't help but worry maybe we just got lucky with our daughter. How are you finding TWW?

We’ve been trying to conceive baby number 3 for well over 2 years now. My youngest is 8. Don’t know what we are doing wrong. Mixed emotions constantly of thinking, if it’s meant to happen it will but on the other hand I’m extremely frustrated about it. Feel as though I shouldn’t ask for help from my GP as I should be grateful for my 2 healthy children.

Not doing anything wrong @03fran Just because you already have children doesn't mean your feelings aren't justified. Every life is wanted and even if you already have children, its still an emptiness. Don't leave speaking to a GP because of your own thought process. If you're struggling, go to the GP. I'm already decided, I'll speak to my GP as soon as 12 months have past. For my own mental health more than anything . Its exhuasting constantly wondering what if. You've done amazing. Two years trying is rough - I admire your strength. I'm 8 months in and really feel some days I below in an asylum haha!

Don't stress about it Hun and it will happen...have u tried the clear blue ovulation tests so u no when ur definitely ovulating xxx

Yes I have just the last 2 months used the clearblue ovulation tests. I'm lucky I have a very regular cycle so at least thats something. Thanks for the positivity @lambo88 I always feel better once AF is done. Just feels like its taking forever!

@Mamatoalittlebear also TTC #2 right now - DD will be 3 in December. We started trying just over a year ago, fell in the January and ended up having an ectopic that was treated with methotrexate in February. We couldn't try for 3 months after that due to the methotrexate but we're now on month 7 of trying again and it's so emotionally exhausting. 8 close friends / family members have announced pregnancies in the last 6 months which seems to make it even harder. I just have to keep reminding myself that it will happen when it's our time. The feeling of not being pregnant is escalated x 1000 when you've got the hormones from AF which always makes it harder. Thinking of you, you're not alone ❤️

@whambam89 so sorry to hear about your ectopic pregnancy. Thats an emotional rollercoaster for you. How are you feeling now? So sweet of you to be so encouraging and kind. I feel I have no reason to complain after all you've been through. Thinking of you too. Knowing I'm not alone already makes me feel better. It can feel so isolating. I hope you get your positive soon 🙏

Hi,

If you want you can join us on www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/4043332-ttc-baby-2?pg=15

If not, no worries and fingers crossed!

It’s such a draining process. Some days I feel good, relaxed etc and other days I can just feel the anxiety through my entire body! I’ve been doing fertility acupuncture the last 2 cycles, nothing happened with it yet but it’s very relaxing which is nice. I’ve also had a couple of tests done.. AMH which was 26 and progesterone blood test which was 32 which is apparently fine although my acupuncturist says my progesterone should be higher. Above 30 shows you ovulated but mine is only just over so maybe an issue, might not be.
My daughter just turned 3 and I would absolutely love to be able to give her a sibling. I have a sister and we are the best of friends. Keeping fingers crossed for us all!

@Mamatoalittlebear I'm doing ok! I think it's all such a draining process no matter what the circumstances so you have every right to feel that way. Hope you get your BFP soon as well ♥️

Hello everyone. Just looking for some hoep whilst on the harder journey of ttc number 2... any positive stories or help??? X