Anyone else feel like everyone is announcing pregnancies/having babies atm?

[tanlinesgoodtimes99]

I feel this title may come across wrong. Just want to clarify that I love seeing people announcing pregnancies and giving birth I cheer for them as it is the most amazing thing ever!

However seeing this does fill me with a bit of sadness, currently in month 2 of TTC (please don’t attack me I know it’s still early days - we’ve just talked about this for a while and put off trying till now so I’ve been thinking about it so long) and about to enter TWW before testing again

I just feel so negative and down and that we’ll get another negative test result this month and I won’t be pregnant by Christmas - when we originally talked about trying it was earlier this year. Then a house move plus COVID and new job for hubby made us delay until October! So originally talking there was hopes I’d be pregnant by Christmas and my thoughts ran away with me, I couldn’t stop thinking how special Christmas would’ve been.

Anyone else in the same boat? And anyone got any stories of reassurance where they felt a bit deflated at the start of trying and it happened not long after?

Me and hubby both relatively young (I’m under 25) healthy and had health checks, all good from doc with no reported health concerns. Rationally I know that pregnancy is a 20-30% chance each month and we just weren’t lucky first month!

Again please don’t attack me and tell me it could take years etc - I just feel a bit down tonight and that’s okay! And it might not take us years I’m staying hopeful that’ll it be under a year.

Judging by the lack of response to this I feel I might be being a tad sensitive!

Stay hopeful but don’t pin all your hopes on it every month - it will drive you mad.

@elenacampana thank you. I did this 1st month with me being quite young, expected I’d be lucky and I got so disappointed!

Since then I’ve not got my hopes up however I feel I’m now on the other end of the scale. Only just finished trying for this month (won’t stop DTD here I just mean entering TWW now!) and I’m already telling myself it’ll be negative, not an ounce of hope!

@tanlinesgoodtimes99 I’m the same as you, currently on 2nd cycle ttc our first, I’ve also just started TWW. I was on the pill for about 12 years so I know it might take a while. The 3rd friend in a space of 2 months has just announced her pregnancy to me, I think this got to me more this time because she wasn’t trying and doesn’t seem overly happy about it! Fingers crossed this will be our month! Xx

@tanlinesgoodtimes99 I felt like this after a few months, I'm not sure why but I'd convinced myself that it was going to be really difficult for us but based on no actual evidence! We got pregnant on month 5 of trying, so not long at all, and it was actually the month we only had sex once in FW. Try not to overthink it too early, you've no reason to as it sounds like everything is in your favour ☺️ and it'll just add pressure. Xx

@Purpleflowers21 sending you lots of baby dust lovely! Hope it is your month

And I feel the pain I feel like so many people are announcing pregnancies and it’s a surprise/didn’t try and it’s deflating as I just sit and wish I got pregnant by surprise !

@KateColx this is how I feel! And it’s only been 1 month I need to calm down really!

Being patient is not one of my qualities! Which isn’t helping. Guess I just need to accept I might not be extremely lucky and conceive in month 1/2/3!

Thank you very much

I completely understand how you feel OP. AF just arrived so I am now starting cycle 3. I know it's still super early but we have been talking about TTC and planning it for almost a year so it feels longer. I am a really organised (or intense depending on your option!) person so I am struggling with not being in control of this. I am trying not to do ovulation sticks or temps as I know I'll get even more obsessed but it's hard. You're not alone!

I think when u want something ur more aware others are announcing pregnancies etc. If we weren’t TTC we probably wouldn’t even notice all the babies popping out around us x

@ErrolFinn wow this is exactly how I feel! I’m very organised and like things I can control and when I can’t I tend to panic

When in January we mentioned TTC I always dreamed being pregnant at/by Christmas and I feel like it won’t happen in the next 2 months at least so just feel deflated

Sending you lots of baby dust. Hope this cycle is your one xx

@BriocheBuns very valid point which DH has mentioned. Because we want it so much I notice so much!

Hi op. I know it would feel like there are loads of pregnancies when trying but right now there really are so many. The lockdown baby boom really happened. Not for me though 😂 I'm at the end of cycle 10 and feeling crap about it, I totally get what you mean. I'm happy for others but you think, why can't it be me?
I think it's normal to be envious seeing people have what you really want.

Lockdown baby boom is a thing. A friend of mine fell pregnant unexpectedly at 39, having only been with her new partner a couple of months. Her children and (ae) ex were very surprised! Two other friends also said sod it and conceived second children, and my sister forgot to get her contraceptive injection and is now pregnant with her first.

Meanwhile we’ve had delayed IVF due to lockdown, then an early miscarriage and potentially facing a cancelled cycle. Likely to be our last attempt due to DP age. Doesn’t mean I’m not delighted for everyone, it’s just tinged with regret too.